Nothing you can do, he has to seek counseling

how’s your sex life…. try to improve… and give him spiritual counseling as well – search for the Bible

Maybe become swingers??? Naa I am kidding. Well its going to be tuff for him to get rid of the addiction. He can go and get help for this so check that route out.

to spice up your relationship and get him focused back on loving u why dont u make a video of your self doing the stuff that the other gurls would do on the computer it will get him back and get him focused on u and show him u have a freaky side to most men are addicted to porn b/c they think there wives are boring that theve lost the flame they had when he met you show him u still have it

you are taking this way to siriously. the guys not cheating, and at least he told you about it, maybe you should watch some with him, and that might add a little something to the bedroom. but its just porn nothing more nothing less

When I was pregnant I felt the same way. I would wake up in the middle of the night to see my ex spanking it in the next room. He continued to do it after I gave birth. There was nothing I was able to do. I tried blocking the websites, but there is no way I was able to. My ex even tried to block them because he knew I was uncomfortable. I finally got him to stop when I started spending more time with him…. it was my way of making sure he didn’t do it. I would stay up until he went to sleep, check the history the next morning, then when he got home from work I would make sure he is off the computer for the night. If he went on at all I was right behind him watching his every move. I would stay up laying in bed listening for typing until I knew he was asleep. It turned into O.C.D for me. I think you should just try to spend time with him, give him affection. not sex unless you want it, but a little cuddle or a romantic dinner…. give it some time with that and see if it works. Please do not let it turn into something like I had. It ruined my relationship.

Supa,

Porn addiction is serious. You’ll get answers possibly saying it’s normal…but it’s not “normal” as it is an addiction…if you want to call an addiction normal.

There are men’s groups like AA or Na that actually are all about Porn addiction. they pretty much operate undercover for anonymity, but alot of churches have connections. One is called “Avenues for Men” and another is “The Lord’s Table” for on line work.

I’ve never been addicted to porn, but I do know about six guys who are through these types of ministries, and it is a form of adultery known as emotional/sexual affairs, and it saps the energy he has for you right out of him.

He needs to get into counseling to get this out on the table, so even he can clearly see it, at least then he has a good chance of recovering from it. You two cannot continue down this road as is though.

Sorry, I know this is very painful for you…just thank God he can’t infect you with STD from tapping his fingers on the keyboard.

Wally

when a man stays in a relationship for a long time it is likely he will be bored. I suggest you talk to him about these addictions. It is quite normal for men to look at porn (alot). Communication is the key to a relationship so sit down with him and ask questions and understand why he does talk to other women. It could be because he is bored and has nothing else to do. If you know your husband loves you then you shouldn’t be very worried. But if you feel like something is wrong then you should approach him in a nice way and ask him what would HE do if he was in your position? When men are asked this question they usually think twice about what they do because they realize what they do hurts their partners.
Ask him how he would feel if you started talking to other men?
But remember its how you approach him that is important. Have them feel assured you aren’t pointing fingers and just wanting to sort out the issues.

There is a place in San Francisco you guys should visit. A ton of perverts go there.

powerexchange.com

After viewing porn for a time, a guy will have to go in search for harder porn to keep the same level of excitement as when he first started surfing with the soft stuff. If he has been using it for awhile, he may feel the need to interact with live women – thus his decision to turn to the online sex dating site. Could this result in him meeting up with someone? Possibily. One half of all of today’s divorces involve Internet porn on some level or another What is just as bad as his actions themselves is his lying about it. How do you know when he is telling the truth and when he isn’t? Things can get so messed up in an addict’s head that at times he doesn’t even know himself.

Addicts of any kind live in what I call “verbal reality.” This means if they say it, it is true and if they say it passionately enough even they believe it is really true. You must understand the sex addict’s verbal reality. This is often how the addict manipulates. The sex addict believes what he is saying while he is saying it. Your most helpful tool in verbal reality is measurable behavior. He says, “I love you” but acts out. The behavior is always the truth. He says he wants to change, but attends no SA meetings and makes no calls to a therapistcounselor, and so his behavior is the truth. Don’t be fooled by verbal reality and don’t blame him if you buy what he says to you. In the past, your own desire to believe the best and not implement measurable behaviors has set up a system that you both are now familiar with. The system is: he does what he wants, Says: “I love you” or “I’ll change,” You believe him, nothing changes and then you get to repeat this cycle again.

The way to stop this cycle is to ask what recovery behaviors he is committed to and where he is going to check off if he did them or not. Addicts themselves believe their own verbal reality so YOU can’t if you are going to recover. What recovery behaviors you say? Check out http://www.PornAddictHubby.com.