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I have tried all I know. He’s an alcoholic. I tell him to get out, he says no. I threaten to leave, he says make sure you take it all, because you’re never coming back in here. He’s missing more and more work. He’s usually at least an hour late daily and misses a few days a month because he’s hung over and has been up all night. He plays World or Warcraft every moment he isn’t working. He does sleep overs a couple times a month…probably with his brother. He won’t have anything to do with me physically…nothing. I have no proof, but I’m pretty sure he’s using drugs.

I hate that I feel like my only option is to leave and struggle or stay and be miserable. I am a complete idiot for having kids with him…I already know that. I would really like to know how a strong woman would deal with this. I always hear women say “I wouldn’t put up with that”. Do you mean you’d leave? Or what would you do? Who would you involve? I can’t find a counselor who will see us until he’s ready to deal with his addiction. He does not think he has a problem. He thinks I am his problem. He’s called me a retard and has threatened to have me put away in a mental hospital if I keep bugging him.

How do I put my foot down? Or do I have to leave? I’m so scared for my kids future, whether I stay or leave. He has told me he’d vanish before he’d pay child support to me, so that’s out of the question to count on too.

Help. I know he’s messed up and I would rather make it work. Help.
Anne, we’ve done the intervention. He won’t go and he refuses to leave the house.
Again, I’m hearing make him move out. HOW??? That’s what I want, but he won’t go!

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Just so you are aware off the bat, this girl has some major psychological problems she’s trying to deal with. In fact, she attempted suicide recently. This might not even the best place to ask about such a serious situation, but I’m gathering all the input I can. I will be talking to a counselor in-person soon about this same story.

She’s very unstable and lacks willpower. She started drinking in her teens and became an addict. She has been attending AA for about six months, stopped drinking for a while but got right back into it because she would hang out at bars surrounded by alcohol. She also did various drugs in college, mostly by IV, though tells me she hasn’t been using them for two years. I don’t want to be too trusting … I don’t know for sure that she’s been off drugs since.

We were best of friends at a very young age. We’ve reunited online after losing contact many years ago when her family moved away (she still lives far away, we are in communication via phone and online). Very recently she had told me about how good I made her feel and both of us have a lot of fun talking to each other. She wanted to move forward into a long-distance relationship. I’ve been willing to give it a chance, and at the same time been aware of the problems she’s had and continues to deal with.

Back to the suicide … she never told me she was going to. In fact my conversation with her the same day she attempted it, she was laughing while I was on the phone with her. It was a rather upbeat, positive conversation and never saw a suicide attempt coming that same day. I believe her reasoning has to do with how she recently lost her job that she just got. She lost it because she was in a fight with her boss’s daughter (who works at the same place) a few days beforehand. The fight happened because (surprise) they were drunk.

I don’t approve of the drinking whatsoever, or the drugs she once used, or any of the trouble she gets into. I would love to see this relationship work out without jeopardizing my own life. She can be a fun, sweet girl around me and when she isn’t tempted to drink.

Chances are half the reason she wanted this relationship is because I’m the kind of guy that would lead someone into a “clean” lifestyle. I don’t drink at all. I never tried drugs. I never picked a fight with anyone and am always optimistic. I’m afraid she wanted this relationship as an escape route from her current life.

How do I explain to her my thoughts on her terrible habits? Should I just go back to just staying as friends with her while she possibly lives single for the rest of her life (or ends up with some whack-job of a guy)?

Thanks, and sorry for the wordy question. :)

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Just so you are aware off the bat, this girl has some major psychological problems she’s trying to deal with. In fact, she attempted suicide recently. This might not even the best place to ask about such a serious situation, but I’m gathering all the input I can. I will be talking to a counselor in-person soon about this same story.

She’s very unstable and lacks willpower. She started drinking in her teens and became an addict. She has been attending AA for about six months, stopped drinking for a while but got right back into it because she would hang out at bars surrounded by alcohol. She also did various drugs in college, mostly by IV, though tells me she hasn’t been using them for two years. I don’t want to be too trusting … I don’t know for sure that she’s been off drugs since.

We were best of friends at a very young age. We’ve reunited online after losing contact many years ago when her family moved away (she still lives far away, we are in communication via phone and online). Very recently she had told me about how good I made her feel and both of us have a lot of fun talking to each other. She wanted to move forward into a long-distance relationship. I’ve been willing to give it a chance, and at the same time been aware of the problems she’s had and continues to deal with.

Back to the suicide … she never told me she was going to. In fact my conversation with her the same day she attempted it, she was laughing while I was on the phone with her. It was a rather upbeat, positive conversation and never saw a suicide attempt coming that same day. I believe her reasoning has to do with how she recently lost her job that she just got. She lost it because she was in a fight with her boss’s daughter (who works at the same place) a few days beforehand. The fight happened because (surprise) they were drunk.

I don’t approve of the drinking whatsoever, or the drugs she once used, or any of the trouble she gets into. I would love to see this relationship work out without jeopardizing my own life. She can be a fun, sweet girl around me and when she isn’t tempted to drink.

Chances are half the reason she wanted this relationship is because I’m the kind of guy that would lead someone into a “clean” lifestyle. I don’t drink at all. I never tried drugs. I never picked a fight with anyone and am always optimistic. I’m afraid she wanted this relationship as an escape route from her current life.

How do I explain to her my thoughts on her terrible habits? Should I just go back to just staying as friends with her while she possibly lives single for the rest of her life (or ends up with some whack-job of a guy)?

Thanks, and sorry for the wordy question. :)

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i am obsessed with this girl and today my friend recommended that i find another obsession or addiction to keep my mind off of it. i asked if he had any ideas and he said he used to have an addiction to something so i asked and he said he wont tell me. i dont want to know because i want to try it now, i just want to know what he is hiding that could be THAT BAD. and i already know he has slit his wrists a couple of times and he wasnt referring to that he said. i tried to get the answer out of him guessing the typical teenage addictions like sex/drugs/alcohol/painkillers and he said its legal and its not painkillers…i just wanna know because were rly tight and usually (btw were not gay or bi or wutev just rly good friends)we have some deeeeeep conversations and now hes hiding secrets…have any ideas? and dont post saying that i shouldnt know if he doesnt want me to i just want to hear wut u think it is. even if its rly wacky like shocking urself; put it up!plz! – concerned friend
i guessed every orientation, and rape…i doubt masturbation but i ask about porn. any more?

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do you know anyone that has overcome a heavy, long term opiate addiction without methadone or something similar? Because i’m beginning to think it’s impossible.

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common tell
angels always keeps a secret hehehe

soccer Q.
could u live 1 month without watching or hearing about soccer?
Golden angel blows a *kiss* to babyboy
Ashkon:U wish….and NO u cannot live a day without a girl.

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Ok. So, I’m into Sims 2 Machinima, and I’m really fond of it. But, I have a new series coming and I really like the plot, but I don’t know what to call it. Now, before I give you the plot, I want you to know, I am professional. I have Sony Vegas 8.0, and know how to use. I ONLY work in high quality, and I want the name to sound legit, and pro.

The story plot:
Ok, so Viv (short for Vivienne) had a rough childhood; divorced parents, not much money, no friends. But her teen years were worse; she did drugs, got pregnant at 16, and got kicked out of her moms home. Now she 24 and has her 8 year old daughter, Shianne. She STILL does drugs, until, her daughter convinces her to go to rehab. But she doesn’t stay. AND IT GETS WORSE. Until, the Child Protection Service comes for her daughter. And thats when she realizes whats happened to her. And from then on she attempts to get better.
And the rest is a secret.
OH YEAH! She got worse because of her roommate in her home, her “friend” Micheal, who is a slacker, and spends his entire day doing his drugs. So thats what influenced her to start doing drugs again.

So, PLEASE HELP ME!

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do you know anyone that has overcome a heavy, long term opiate addiction without methadone or something similar? Because i’m beginning to think it’s impossible.

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Personally, I believe that gaming itself isn’t the problem in most of these marriages. If the game wasn’t around, the spouse would surely find some other outlet to zone out and avoid the rest of the family. I refuse to believe that someone who was happy in their relationship would zone out and play video games constantly. Obviously, there’s some other problem in these relationships….most likely, it stems from a lack of understanding and/or communication between the two partners. Video games are just an excuse to hide from a bigger problem. Take away the games, and the person will just find another distraction, like alcohol abuse.

I do believe that some people have actual problems with gaming too much; however, there’s no way that all of these people have this severe of a mental problem. Alcoholism changes your body’s chemistry for a short time, which causes addiction. Video games don’t.
I should probably add that I don’t believe gaming is only something that people hide behind to get away from problems. I’m an avid, happy gamer with a great relationship. However, even when the gaming spouse plays because they enjoy it, there’s still a major lack of communication if the other spouse can’t accept or understand this….which indicates a different problem in the relationship.

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My brother is a member of my school’s football varsity team. Just recently, I discovered the secret to his star player status: steroids. I’ve confronted him about it and he just told me to leave him alone. I’m scared for my brother. I think he’s already addicted to steroids that he can’t play football without getting steroid injections first. Please help.

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