My boyfriend and I have an extremely close relationship and we are close to becoming engaged. We have been living together for 2 years and everything is wonderful except for his family and friends. He is currently estranged from his parents as they have been abusive to him all his life. He cut the ties to them a few months ago and is very happy to be living without their constant harassment. His father has groped me and is abusive toward me. Since he grew up in an extremely dysfunctional household he gravitated toward the children of other dysfunctional households and him and his friends were nothing but trouble. As adults his friends are no better off than they were when they were 17 years old. They are now 40 years old. Many of them are chronically unemployed, in and out of jail, are on crack, are alcoholics and convicted child molesters. They often call wasted out of their minds at all hours of the night. They are always full of constant drama and self-pity. My boyfriend has had his share of problems and that is why he was friends with them. He often enabled their behavior and joined in the drama. Since he has been with me he has turned over a new leaf and he is 100% clean and sober. He was never in bad enough shape to require rehab but he was caught up in the lifestyle with the people he had known since elementary school. He has a heart of gold and he often gives in to them because of his ties from elementary school. These friends are always there to take and not to give. I don’t want to ask him to leave his friends as I know he cares for them. However, I’m not too sure that I can spend the rest of my life being absolutely annoyed and sickened by these people. I have worked really hard to get through college and have a great career. I am surrounded by great family and friends and without them I wouldn’t be where I’m at today. I also have a 13 year old son who has attended a private school for the past 8 years. What should I do? I just can’t help but to be turned off by people who resemble the folks on Jerry Springer. I’m afraid that it’s big enough to ruin our relationship because when he gets angry he is so resentful that he doesn’t talk to or see his crazy friends anymore. He is a walking contradiction. He tells me he is ecstatic to be sharing a life with me. He says that me and my son are his priority and we are the only ones he cares to be with. But then, he gets mad and throws it in my face that he never sees anyone. Sadly enough, I’m thinking it’s a deal breaker. Those people are always going to bring him down. Misery loves company.

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