
Okay, so hold on to your seats…
In April, my wife decided she did not want to be with me any more. She said she wasn’t happy, and needed to be happy with herself before she could be happy with anyone else. She took our son and went to her parents house.
From then until August we were either fighting or not talking to each other. I had suspicions that she was cheating on me, although she would deny them and made me start to feel like I was crazy for thinking the things I thought. She was seeing a counselor and a psychologist for her issues, and I was seeing a counselor as well.
In late August, she brought our son back to stay with me. She then told me that she had been diagnosed as being clinically depressed. She also told me that she had been cutting herself and was bulimic since before we were together (5+ years). This was incredibly shocking to me, but we talked and I told her I still loved her very much and supported her.
Fast forward to a few days ago. She calls me and tells me that she has been having an affair for the last few months. I was incredibly furious, and we fought about it for quite some time. Then it turns out shes been kicked out of her parents house, and shes now living with the guy shes been seeing. He’s a jobless, car-less drug addict who lives with his sister.
She was kicked out of her house because she refuses to attend an in-patient rehabilitation program her therapist is recommending. She feels as though living with this scumbag is helping her.
Her parents and I have had enough. We know she’s not telling her therapist everything, because she claims that her therapist told her that her new relationship is just fine. Since I began talking with her parents we’ve all realized that she’s doing nothing but lying to us about everything.
Will I be violating any kind of ethics or doctor patients confidentiality if I contact her therapist and let her know a few things that she probably doesn’t know about her patient.
I know theres a doctor patient confidentiality, and she can’t tell me anything. Her mother is trying to get some kind of access that will allow her to be there for a session, and allow the doctor to notify her if she stops taking her meds or misses an appointment.
We also know she’s not telling everything since the doctor has apparently only recommended an eating disorder outpatient program.
I love me wife, and her family loves her. We just want her to get better for the sake of our son. Can I do this, and does anyone have any advice?? Please help.
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