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Daily links: Lindsay Lohan reportedly serious about recovery and headed for rehab
Lindsay Lohan was reportedly heading back to rehab for another try at getting clean and sober after she was briefly sent back to jail Friday for failing two of her mandatory drug tests.
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Lindsay Lohan ‘Should Reach Out To Oprah,’ Fans Say
Between the multiple jail and rehab stints, alcohol-monitoring devices and a dearth of high-profile onscreen roles, this year appears to have been especially trying for Lindsay Lohan.
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Lindsay Lohan Spends Sunday at a Homeless Shelter
The actress, who is rehab-bound again, does some charity work with her mother and sister
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Lindsay Lohan reportedly now serious about drug rehab and treatment
Lindsay Lohan is now serious about her recovery, according to a TMZ source, though she relapsed weeks after checking out of a UCLA inpatient clinic.
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My brother is a crack addict and has been using for about 15 years. He has been though rehab several times and can stay clean for a few months at a time, then goes right back to it.

Every time he gets money in his pocket, he binges till it’s gone. Mom and dad have tried helping him handle his money and keep his bills paid, but he gets mad when he asks for money and it isn’t there because they used it to pay his bills. He rages at them for “stealing” his money.

Then he gets little side jobs and takes the cash on his own, and wastes every penny on crack. The last time he did this was 2 weeks ago, he was talking about needing to take his money and pay insurance and get tags for his vehicle, then he spent it all.

We have all enabled him to a certain point, Mom and dad co-signed to get him a boat during one of his clean stages, so he could make money fishing. He catches fish and sells them, keeping all the money to spend as he will, leaving my parents to pay his boat payment. They have only been able to keep enough of his money to pay 3 payments in the past year. They have paid the rest.

He asked me yesterday if I could handle his money for him and make sure his bills are paid. We sat down and figured out how much he needs to give me each month to make his bills and made a ledger. I stressed to him that he wouldnt be able to get advances from the bill money, when he runs out of pocket money, he is out till next payday. He agreed so this is set up now.

We are doing what we can to help him without enabling him to continue with this destructive behavior.

Now for the question… He just informed me that he has asked his current girlfriend to marry him. She knows of his past use, but he is pretending it is all behind him now. He wont tell her he “slipped” again a couple of weeks ago, he says it’s all in his past. I feel like she should know that he is still using occasionally. I know if I say anything to her, my whole family will get mad at me for “ruining” his chances to be happy. But if I dont feel right sitting by and letting this good woman walk into this situation blind.

My brother is a wonderful man when he isn’t using, but when he goes on his binges and spends all his money he gets verbally abusive to anyone trying to confront him about his crack use. We are both in our 40′s so it isn’t a teenage thing. Is there anyone that can give me insights on how to deal with this situation?
Thank you so much for all the great answers.

My brother and I have talk a lot about his use, possible triggers, and tips to stay clean. He thinks his last binge was triggered by drinking and thinks that may have been a factor in the past few binges.

He is really trying hard to work on this problem and I’m the only one he will talk honestly to about it. At least on this last one, when he realized I wasn’t buying into his excuses, he admitted it to me and talked about it with me.

I’m still undecided about the girlfriend though.

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Last year, my fiance’s mother died. Afterwards, he had anxiety so bad that he started having migraines that escalated to ice pick migraines. He went to his doctor and was gievn 120 tylenol 3′s a month. Anyone out there that has ever dealt with codiene would know that it’s highly addictive, and 120 is enough to start that addiction. It did. That was a year and a half ago, and it’s alot worse now. He probably spends anywhere from $800-$1500 buying pills off the street in a month. He came to me last night and told me that he wanted to quit, and he asked me to call his doctor and talk to him about it and see what could be done without him having to go to rehab because he’d lose his job. I did, and his doctor said he would do nothing. HE is the one that caused this, and he said he would do NOTHING. “Sorry, I can’t help you” is what he told me. He also told him that he could not be his patient any more. He then called my fiance’s work place and reffered him to a detox center.
He CANNOT do this because he would have to stay there for 2 weeks without any communication to the outside world.

My fiance’s addiction is to the point that if he were to go a certain amount of time without having codiene in his body, that he could go into cardiac arrest or have some other sort of major organ failure. This was told to us by another doctor. Now, he hasn’t had any for almost 20 hours. He’s vomiting, shaking, seizuring and having to run to the bathroom every 5 minutes.

He cannot go into rehab. He would get fired from his job. A about a year ago, we tried a step down method over a period of two months that worked for some time. I have really bad menstural cycles and I have to take percocets for the pain. He found them, and started again. I have since then stopped taking them.
I’m not looking for people to give me lecutres or judge me here. I’m also not looking to hear that going to detox would be the only way, because I know it isn’t. I’m simply asking what you would do in our situation. Is there anything that we can do about this doctor? I’m really starting to freak out because it seems there’s no way to get out of this and I don’t want to lose the person I love most to a tiny white pill. Thanks.
Ok, I guess I forgot to add that it is oxycodone and hydrocodone that he’s into. Percocets and vicodin.

And what’s up with this nightmare thing?
To the third answer – yes he can be outright fired. He is the administrator of the largest call center in Ohio and they have a 0 drug tolerance. A co worker of his didn’t tell management that he was on vicodin for a tooth ache and they caught him taking it on the floor and fired him. He tried pursuing this with a lawyer and nothing could be done. Just figured I’d let you know.
I thought that I might get atleast one sensible answer if I did this, but I guess I was wrong. Please understand that he CANNNOT go into detox or into rehab because he WILL lose his job. I know that doesn’t sound very significant, but you’ve got to understand that I can only work at certain places because of MY medical issues. Those places don’t pay that much….certainly not enough to pay all of our bills. And if I didn’t care about him, would I have posted this?

Another thing, it is not just codeine that he is addicted to. It’s oxycodone and hydrocodone, too. I’m sorry, but with the amount of doctors and with the amount of research that I have done, I have significant proof that it IS highly addictive.

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I’m 23 years old and I already lost my dad when i was 10 from drugs. SInce then my mother has developed a drug problem which seems to be more important to her then her own life. She is 80 lbs with advanced cervical cancer that has spread to her stomach and blocked 1 kidney. They said they can’t do chemo b/c it will kill her. so then they said they can do intensive radiation. the day she was supposed to be admitted she took off on one of her drug binges (where she disappears for days at a time). I havent talked to her since b/c i’m at wits end with her. she has been puttin us (my sisters and I) thru this for 10 years and it is taking over my life. Does anyone know of any programs that deals with addiction/psychology. i was thinkin maybe I can yhave her commited to a place but without er consent. she is def/ not of sound mind. I’m so lost. its killin me to know she is dyin, but even worse that she is not doin ne thing about it. I’m only 23. i can’t bear the thought of losing both parent

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I dated a guy for over 2 1/2 years whom had been battling addiction to drugs. We were in a long-distance relationship, so I was not aware of how seriously he was involved & the extent of his using. As far as I knew, he was receiving psychiatric treatment & counselling and participating in a methadone program. Apparently he had an entire “secret” life I knew nothing about. I can only imagine the things he might have been involved in.

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My boyfriend of 3 yrs. knows my deepest darkest secrets. I fell in love with him because he was my best friend .We shared everything. I had never been in love before, and I am 44. Here’s the question….due to circumstances beyond our control….long story …..my ex and child custody….etc…. We had to break up.
Now he threatens me …that he will tell my family that my Dad sexually molested me for ten years…no one knows this but my ex, my sister, and him. What do I do? He says if I don’t come back to him, he will write my Mom, who is 74, a letter by email and tell her the truth. I never told my mother because she had enough pain in her life due to my father’s alcoholism and all. Why would he do this? Do you think he will? Should I wait and see? Should I tell my Mom first? My Dad is 78 now and on a feeding tube. He had cancer and radiation and all the rest. I don’t know what my parents will do…it could cause them a heartattack or something. I don’t condone it.
By no means! I dealt with it as a child and buried it down deep. It started to bother me at 29 and I told my sister/husband. They never told anyone. So WHY would he threaten me with this? Desperate? I am afraid everyday that he will email my parents. Then my 3 kids will know. And I don’t want them to have bad memories of their grandfather right before he passes, if he does. Am I paranoid? Is he bluffing? What do I do? He is so angry right now that I had to choose my l2 yr. old daughter over him because of child custody stuff…but it is only temporary. I tried to explain we can get back together when all the court papers are signed. He can’t live with me now. Help
I love him. I really do. I think he is just insecure and afraid of losing me. He said if he had to hurt, so should other people. My mother has never met him. We live five hundred miles away from them. I live in another state with my daughter for now. We have been here 3 months. And he thinks that is too long to be apart.
my mother is a retired school teacher so she does know alot about the computer. She still has her right mind. She is in good shape except for rhuematoid arithritis. My Dad has his mind also and gets around pretty good..he drives.

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Example:infidelity, addiction, criminal behavior.

How long could you keep such a secret and when would you break down and spill the beans if ever?

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My brother got mixed up with this girl a few years back and they had a baby. He is now 2. They are no longer together but share custody equally. My brother told me on Friday that she told him she had snorted heroine a few times recently. I freaked out. I do not have any experience with drug addicts, no one i have ever known has had a problem. He says they are working out getting her help but do not believe he can do it on his own. He is not on drugs, he is a nice boy, just got mixed up with a girl from the wrong side of the tracks. Her mother was a druggie her entire life, in and out of rehab.
She is in the army reserves, should i call them. Would they be able to get her help. I do not trust that baby going back to her without her going to rehab. I do not believe that heroine is the type of drug you do only once or twice. Also, if the army tests her, how long does it stay in the body? What if she tests clean? So confused but need to do something to help my nephew. I am 26 and my brother is 23. Thanks
My brother was at my house next to me when talking to her about it. It is not 2nd hand information. This is a real situation.
Aime: cross my t’s and dot my i’s. Trying to ruin her life? ? Are you serious? I am trying to help her. I do not want to see her go down the same road her mother did. And i DO NOT want any harm to come to the baby; a defenseless little boy who lives with me every other week. I don’t know where you are from but in my book, people just to do heroine to ‘try it out’. She needs help. People die because people like you sit back and watch. Ruin her life, i think not.

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