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My husband says he is obsessed with looking at porn. He admitted to sharing nude photos over the internet with another woman who he talked to over the course of a few months (would you consider that cheating?). He also said that he has a secret obsession with violent sex in which he has complete control over the person he’s with (like violent spanking, boot licking…things like that). He has never told me he was in to things like that, he has always been kinda timid. If he goes to counseling can he ever get over this? Has anyone else ever dealt with a situation like this??

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Since me and my husband have been married (2yrs ago) I always complained about our sex life. I found out when I was pregnant that he had a secret porn addiction and masturbated daily behind my back whilst indulging in free online porn videos. He rejects my attempts, I cant touch him at night. When I have an urge I suck it up and get frustrated. I go for months without being satisfied. Yesterday after a dramatic scene, he confessed to me that he always has been a porn addict and that he sincerely seeks help to recover. He claims he does not want to be that way and that he can’t stop without professional help. Today after long research and phone conversations with therapists I came to realize what I feared for a long time. Once an addict always an addict. And he may always relapse to porn. He completely has cut me off his sex life. But the damage is even bigger than just that. I don’t want to have sex with him anymore either because I know that he is damaged. I know the sex we will possibly have will not mean what it should mean that he will always think of porn at the back of his mind. I do love him but I can’t get myself to want him sexually anymore. And my husband is my knight shining armor and I am afraid this means the end for us. It’s like someone who spit in your food. I just can’t have it anymore….My question is do you believe he can fully recover and enjoy a normal healthy sex life with me? And will I be able to doubt and second thought him the whole time???

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Nearly Ned Flanders, my husband is a hard working, honest, faithful man. He is dedicated to our family, free of vices, he spends his non-working time with us. We have an open, loving relationship. He has an addiction to ‘hiding’ run of the mill porn. He stupidly ‘hides’ it in his work bag (get fired if found) I don’t have any problem with porn. We have our stash that is hidden, inaccessible to our kids. We respect each others right to pleasure ourselves and don’t take it personally. I don’t mind that he has porn, just that he hides it. I wouldn’t mind if he said ‘I want this secret stash and I promise to hide it here inaccessible to the kids’. I just hate secrets and I hate when the person I am most intimate with hides/lies about something so stupid. He is not a sex perv, he knows his likes/needs I don’t know why he cant talk to me about it. I survived molest and overcome my own intimacy issues. I have threatened to leave, he has seen a dr, it still resurfaces.

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i need to tell him that i know he has been watching porn literally constantly all day long. im afraid if i ask him about it, he is going to either freak out that ive been checking his history on his comp, or make up some excuse or SOMETHING. hes good at wiggling his way out of situations and turning the focus onto something that ive done in the past to upset him, then we end up arguing about that instead of what he has done!
ok people, i love porn too. but my bf is watching it secretly even when im showering right after we have sex. ive asked to watch it with him, and he gets quiet and embarressed and continues to deny he watches it. trust me, all i wanna know is how to confront him about how i know this is starting to become a problem. he doesnt even want to fuck me as much anymore due to this.
ALSO. im so much more adventourous in bed than he is. he likes it one way, and gets it over quickly, i like it every way and every day! like i said, i just need a way to confront him.
ALSO. im so much more adventourous in bed than he is. he likes it one way, and gets it over quickly, i like it every way and every day! like i said, i just need a way to confront him.
for everyone saying i should watch porn with him, he says he doesnt want to watch porn, he doesnt need porn, and got really embarressed when i said we should watch it one day together. that is not going to work. ugh i dunno, i guess i need to just break up with him or something, thank you everyonee.

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