My brother and my fiance were in a car accident on July 14th. The car skidded off the road, went into the air and hit 4 trees. Both were thrown out. My brother was pronounced DOA. My fiance was airlifted to a hospital 5 hours away from our home. Luckily his parents live close by.
He had a lot of injuries and has had several surgeries. He has metal rods & screws in his left arm and left leg. Multiple broken ribs on the right side. His right leg is in a cast because all the ligaments/tendons are torn. His liver is bruised. His lungs collasped but are doing good now. He has metal plates, rods & screws in his pelvis and ‘tailbone’.(all these bones were crushed) Those are the major things.
His mom insisted that we move in with her instead of going back home. She is a nurse and worked in rehab for 3 years. My boyfriend will require constant care as he can not do anything on his own. He only has use of his right arm.
My fiance was discharged from the hospital yesterday. We are at his parents home. I dont have my car here because I made the drive with his brother. I was way too upset to drive 5 hours on my own.
My boss fired me 2 days after the accident occured because I told him I needed a few days off work so I could come to the hospital he was being sent to. I worked my butt off for that man. Even worked 2 weeks with bronchitis.
Now my fiance’s parents want me to stay here and care for him 24/7. They are insisting that we stay with them. My fiance wants to be close to his mom right now. He is in a LOT of pain and she is a nurse plus she’s mom.
They dont want me to look for a job. They have promised to support both of us until he is 100% recovered which could be a year of more. He will need a wheelchair for at least 3 months. Then he will have to learn to walk again.
I realize I am jumping from subject to subject and rambling. I am just sooo stressed out. I love my fiance. I really do. But since the accident he is so needy. I understand that he can’t do anything on his own but I cant even go into the next room without him screaming for me. It freaks him out if he wakes up and doesnt see me. He has started getting more & more frustrated and crying over everything. I promised him that I will not leave him and that I will be here to help him thru all this but he still has doubts.
I am trying my best to do everything he wants. I have been bathing him, feeding him and cleaning him(if you know what I mean) He wakes up at least once every hour every night. He’s hot. Then he’s cold. He needs the bedpan. Then he doesnt. It’s just an up & down emotional rollercoaster. I feel like my nerves are shot to he!!.
Has anyone else been in a similiar situation? How did you handle it? I love him and have no intentions of ever leaving him but the thought of going thru all this for a year or more is really scary. I’m not sure if I can handle it. Please I need some advice. Thank you so much!!
Sorry this got so long and please ignore any typos. Thanks!
I am so very thankful that he survived. Right now he has no memory of the accident. It happened maybe 200 feet from our driveway. I was the one that called 911. I feel like I will be able to handle it but right now it is so stressful and hard. His parents have been really great to me. They havent asked me to pay for anything. I think the hardest part is knowing that he is in almost constant pain. I have to help him do physical therapy. I want to quit as soon as I see he is hurting but he doesnt. He works thru all the pain. He is determined to recover faster than the doctors say he will.
But if I continue my daily routine, who will be here with him all day? We cant afford to hire anyone. He can not do anything on his own. He is bed ridden. I can sit him up in a wheelchair but he cant use it to go around the house. He has to be put on a bedpan and cleaned afterwards.
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