Confidential Drug Rehabilitation

My mom works second shift, (2:30 P.M-11:00P.M) So there isn’t anyone home during that time.
I’m 14 and my brother is 17. Ever since she has moved to this new town and got the second shift
job everything has been really horrible. So I decided to live with my dad when my brother was 14. until a year ago. Out here, there isn’t much people so he easily got pulled into the “bad crowd” and he’s been hooked onto all sorts of drugs and he just does what he wants in my mother’s house. He even lies to my dad for drug money and to use his car to get them.. and I don’t have the heart to tell my dad. here are some things he does:
-fucks girls 2 walls from my mom that’s sleeping
-does drugs in our apartment building.(that runs on the risk of us getting kicked out for drug use)
-has people here dealing drugs and using them & making a lot of noise
and just stupid things like that! I’m not even 10 feet from him when he’s having SEX!
I even walked in on him one time! that’s not a sight I wanted to see in my lifetime….

the reason my brother has been doing this for so long is because my mom doesn’t have the heart to have him emancipated or piss tested by court. I know if he OD’s she will surely regret it but she just doesn’t have the heart to do it…

I was going to confront her tonight and tell her I’m going to move with my dad but that would tear her heart even more. (considering her boyfriend she had was hitting on MY FRIENDS so she dumped him… and she suffers from depression and my brother is a total prick!)
What should be a good way to tell her about my decision without ripping her heart or getting her to just get him into some sort of rehab..?

5 stars to the person who reads my long ass story!! <333

(I really am sorry for it being so long!)

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My boyfriend and I have an extremely close relationship and we are close to becoming engaged. We have been living together for 2 years and everything is wonderful except for his family and friends. He is currently estranged from his parents as they have been abusive to him all his life. He cut the ties to them a few months ago and is very happy to be living without their constant harassment. His father has groped me and is abusive toward me. Since he grew up in an extremely dysfunctional household he gravitated toward the children of other dysfunctional households and him and his friends were nothing but trouble. As adults his friends are no better off than they were when they were 17 years old. They are now 40 years old. Many of them are chronically unemployed, in and out of jail, are on crack, are alcoholics and convicted child molesters. They often call wasted out of their minds at all hours of the night. They are always full of constant drama and self-pity. My boyfriend has had his share of problems and that is why he was friends with them. He often enabled their behavior and joined in the drama. Since he has been with me he has turned over a new leaf and he is 100% clean and sober. He was never in bad enough shape to require rehab but he was caught up in the lifestyle with the people he had known since elementary school. He has a heart of gold and he often gives in to them because of his ties from elementary school. These friends are always there to take and not to give. I don’t want to ask him to leave his friends as I know he cares for them. However, I’m not too sure that I can spend the rest of my life being absolutely annoyed and sickened by these people. I have worked really hard to get through college and have a great career. I am surrounded by great family and friends and without them I wouldn’t be where I’m at today. I also have a 13 year old son who has attended a private school for the past 8 years. What should I do? I just can’t help but to be turned off by people who resemble the folks on Jerry Springer. I’m afraid that it’s big enough to ruin our relationship because when he gets angry he is so resentful that he doesn’t talk to or see his crazy friends anymore. He is a walking contradiction. He tells me he is ecstatic to be sharing a life with me. He says that me and my son are his priority and we are the only ones he cares to be with. But then, he gets mad and throws it in my face that he never sees anyone. Sadly enough, I’m thinking it’s a deal breaker. Those people are always going to bring him down. Misery loves company.

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He will deny everything he has done and blame me, his wife for everything. On occasion he will take some blame. He did not have an income (he always makes sure to spout off that he is in fact working) for a couple of years and no benefits for his family.

No matter what -he has stayed his own course even though financial ruin has been around him. No income, selling his watch to a pawn shop, bringing his wedding ring in to get a loan-then get the ring back, increasing anger, 60K of credit card debts, personal loans from friends–always doing it behind my back, oh and the worst part during all this he would dip into our home equity and say he needs to then all the while he does work per se though has no or spotty income. After a 2 year adjustable arm mortgage he put us in (i would cry and say no I do not want to refinance again) we almost went under. I got our house out of foreclosure by the grace of God.
He tends to still be this Napolean Man and surely this is not the guy I married. I am not sure if he is ill, or addicted to power and control?, or hiding substance abuse? Or chemical imbalance in his brain?
I just want him to get well. I have children to raise with him and after him calling me bad names, etc. ie. abuse on all levels….well just feeling frustrated like when will this end! Has anyone seen someone just throw in the towel for their marriage/family? I mean at times we barely have any money to buy a gallon of milk. I am always frantic running around like a chicken with my head cut off picking up the pieces (ie. getting jobs,etc.) I am scared that he is hiding something that he did. I mean when you see financial ruin for so long is it just depression or something more? Anyone go thru something like this?
Therapists tell me to just focus in on me and my children and let his chips fall where they may. But see what they do not know is he is still loved by me (i love the man he used to be) and he is an amazing Father. Even though he has been cruel to me I still love this Napolean Man!

He has a lot of addiction, ie. alcoholism and drug addiction and depression in his family.
He thinks money is going to solve this (yea some of it it will) but I think there are deeper issues.

Thanks

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Okay so I am on a secret account, kind of an alias if you will.
I will not use of the information given with names provided by you
all i want to know is
if you are a drug addicts, what do you feel, what are the thoughts in your head, what drives you to do it? do you want to stop? if so how long did you do drugs before you realized it was a problem.? how does your family feel?
family member, i want to know whats going through your heads? how does it make you feel? are you trying to help? can you help them? or can they only help themselves?
How is/was rehab? have you went? do you want to go? are you afraid to go?

okay so im writing a book these days and i wanted your help. thansk ahead of time. even if i give up on the book i love sketching and i want emotions to feed off of for the sketching
thanks!!
i used to smoke and for like 6 months i was into cocain really bad.. i know the feelings and want to remember but DEFINITELY will NEVER go back to that.. i just want emotion and opinions!! thanks
i know weed is not that serious of a drug people… i felt it was important to state that because i have met people and pills and drugs through this gate drug!

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A potential alcohol problem, need advice?
I very rarely drink. There is a good reason for this. All of my uncles (8) including my dad were or are alcoholics. I have a constant urge to drink, always in the back of my mind. Lately, however, it’s been more at the surface. I cant get it out of my mind. I have told my husband this, but he thinks it’s funny. He doesnt understand why I dont like him drinking around me or having beers lying around. He just doesnt get it. I have a terrible urge to drink all the mike’s hard lemonade in my closet that I have hidden. I have never passed out or even gotten sick from drinking in the past. I could so easily become an alcoholic BUT.. do you think I already AM?? this urge is just so crazy and it’s driving me nuts.

I must add that my uncle just passed away from chronic alcoholism and since this, my urge has become unbearable. I have had thoughts about this before (I used to drink in excess in my early 20s but pregnancy stopped me) but after my uncle’s death, it’s gone tenfold.

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The Left’s tolerance knows no bounds. Practiced in the art of understanding and forgiving human foibles, and averse to the “judgment” they find so intolerable in those who think there are actually values such as right and wrong, good and bad, virtue and evil, liberals demonstrate every day how morally evolved they are. No matter how egregious or even illegal the behavior, they say it’s either a “private matter” or “irrelevant.” For instance:

* President Bill Clinton’s serial philandering, years-long Oval-office affair with a White House intern, and conviction and disbarment for perjury.
* Presidential candidate John Edwards’ cheating on his cancer-ridden wife and fathering a child with his girlfriend.
* Angelina Jolie and Brad Pitt becoming the parents of six children but not getting around to marrying.

* Jodie Foster, Jessica Alba, Nicole Richie, and other Hollywood denizens “choosing” to have babies without getting married, including teenagers Jamie Lynn Spears, Keisha Castle Hughes, Solange Knowles, et al. – which Hollywood celebrates in movies like “Juno.” Uncountable celebrities and politicians’ “acting out” with driving-under-the-Influence and drug arrests, stints in rehab, relapses.

“It’s none of anyone’s business,” the understanding liberals intone. “It’s not related to the job they do!”

Except, that is, when these moral arbiters decide that it’s everyone’s business and highly relevant to the “public’s right to know.”

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Is she the meanest Mom? The World’s formost expert on family recovery in alcoholism speaks out! What does Toby Rice Drews author of the million copy seller books Getting Them Sober and World’s formost expert on family recovery have to say. The world is talking about the ‘meanest mom’ story—-

hi everyone, the news media has been reporting about “the meanest mom” —- A mother who found a hidden bottle of booze under the driver’s seat, after her son drove her car.
She took the car away.

IS she ‘mean’?

Here is the gist of one of the “Recovery Tips of the Month” (on the www.gettingthemsober.com on that very subject (written a couple of years ago— before the ‘meanest mom’ hit the headlines)– Her answer won’t fit here. But you can go to the site to find out.

Toby answers this and more at gettingthemsober.com

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Alcoholism runs in my family. I have a family member who is an alcoholic. She is not in denial and has been in and out of AA for years. She realizes she needs help and is going to enter a 2wk rehab soon. She is the type that hides this disease so well that we never know when she is on or off the wagon. No one would ever guess she has a problem. She is single, lives alone, and has no kids (and so far it has not affected her job) so there is no one to really hold her accountable for her drinking. Recently she told her immediate family/friends that she relapsed several months ago (this even includes her boss). She’s trying everything she knows to get well, and I’d like to help her anyway I can.

Besides holding her accountable daily and going to meetings with her, what are some things I can do to help that a person wouldn’t normally think of? If anyone has experience with this, I’d really appreciate it.

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I’m a 57 yrs. old woman who’s been married for 36 years now mother of 4 children.
3 girls and a boy. I must say I’m very proud of my son who seems to know how to treat a woman, because his wife is the happiest person you’ll ever meet I ask whats her secret
she says( I Love her for this) ” A WONDERFUL HUSBAND”! These 2 are into each other in a way I’ve never seen before!

My son 18 at time got married to a woman who I thought to old for him 5 1/2 years older, divorced twice, one OPEN, other marriage SWUNG! She admits freely and tell everyone NOT TO EVEN ENTERTAIN the thought because it will come back to haunt you!

12 yrs. later son and his wife are still married and happier then ever, She’s an MD, in physical rehabilitation medicine(3 specialtys) witch also includes Psychiatry.
He’s Has 2 PH.D One in applied physics mathematics, other applied engineering concepts. Both NAVY Reserves, both gone to IRAQ 3 times, SON gone to Afghanistan.
Both supports each others dreams!
Both successful and find one another stimulating to be with!
They talk about world politics, views on global warming, public service, EDUCATION!
Wished I had that!

They have a beautiful home in PACIFICA outside S.F. and volunteer. Daughter inlaw helps out with woman’s shelter, make sure Woman get checked up as well as children and helps them get suitable housing!

My son Volunteers his time helping disabled student at a special needs school!
He’s started classes to get teaching certificate because he’s FALLIN IN LOVE with teaching so much, and wants to teach disabled studance for living!

His wife not only supports him but encourages him to do it!
He MAKE better then 400K a year doing freelance work for corporations, wants to give it all up for a job that pay 40k a year does that make scenes to you?

Their marriage is so strong my daughters all have either separated from their husbands or divorced. Saying they deserve a marriage & husband like their bother!
What I miss?
I’ll admit I’m JEALOUS as HELL and if I was 20 yrs. younger I’d be getting a divorce myself, because son’s A PURFET HUSBAND!
He writes letters once a week & mails them to wife, can you believe that?
Says ” HE GOT BETTER THEN DESERVES, WHAT A GIFT HE GOT IN WIFE”( GOD I want that) she loves it!

He graduated high school at 15 had also an AA degree in general education, would continue his education at Cal POL, then STANFORD!

He’s always takin at least one chef class 15 yrs. and this past NOVEMBER got Certificated as a LIGHT MASTER! So he does all the cooking at his home, He’s also got message therapy Licenses in 6 different styles over yrs. give his wife a message( luck girl) at least once a week!

This past Christmas my son gave his wife a student ID card he enrolled to learn manicures&pedicure,every Saturday took her with him to class! her hands & toes are the best looking ones around now!
I’m thinking I got ROBBED because I never got that from husband, NEVER!
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