Me and my brother have always been close and together all the time. My mom and my dad divorced when we were little and then when I was 14 and brother was 10 we moved with my mom to united states. She got married and we lived with step-dad for two years. Then, she divorced him and moved to another city and she has been single ever since. It hasn’t been easy on her. She worked non-stop. I was always around my brother. I always gave him what my mom couldn’t- my time, listened to him, supported him emotionally and guided him. I was non-judgmental and best friend. At the time I was 21 in college and he was 17 when he started playing poker on the computer excessively. My mom would always work and made sure we had food, but that was all. She always wanted thing her way and controlled us. We could never be ourselves around her. Me and my brother could talk to each other without barriers. Then, I met someone special and we fell in love. My mom disapproved of him and kicked me out of the house. I have been living with my boyfriend for a year now. He is the love of my love and I am extremely happy.A month ago my brother graduated from high school and he became even more distant from my mom. She would only see him in the morning when he would go back. She forced him to go to college in another city where they offered him a scholarship and he refused. She kicked him out of the house and now from a smart kid, captain of a soccer team he turned into a gambler, hanging out with unmotivated friends, working a low paid job and in danger all the time. He gave up his scholarship, soccer and college. I know him so well and I am just shocked to see him like this. Some say it is lack of a father figure that caused that, others say it is my fault because we were so close and he felt like he had a family to talk to and that me leaving so suddenly completely shut him down. His best friend moved to another state. A girl he was seeing dumbed him for her ex. His sister he loves so much left so sudden. His mom kicked him out. His dad is all the way in another country. I feel terribly sad … What do yall think is the strongest trigger for his behavior? At this point,how can we get him out of his bad environment and motivate him to go to college? How can we stop his dangerous poker addiction? PLz anyone help! I need professional opinions
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