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Boot camp, Rehab? What are some options?

My younger brother. He’s been acting out the past year but it has gotten especially bad the past few months. He is smoking a lot of pot and I’m no anti-weed person by any means, but he’s way too immature to handle it and is too young to be able to deal with the effects when he’s not high. The reason I mention this is because I think it has a lot to do with it. All his friends smoke and that’s all they do together. They have all turned from (semi-) sweet little boys into violent monsters who scream at their families and make their homes unlivable for everyone else.

I don’t know how many times in the past few weeks he has screamed at me (for really, no reason!) without calling me a bitch or telling me he hopes I dies. And it’s even worse for my mom, he is walking all over her and she has caught him smoking and leaving drugs in her car and house multiple times, he threatens her, rarely goes to school, is failing all his classes and she doesn’t say ANYTHING to him about it because if she even asks him a measly questions like if he wants dinner tonight he chews her head off.

We just had a death in the family and he told us he wished it was us… His friends are talking about their parents dying as well and I just don’t feel safe. We all have very hectic lives already and I struggle with depression and anxiety and I have panic attacks every time I am forced to come home or stay in the house. I feel like I have no control when I am home but I can’t afford to move out and honestly feel it’s selfish (on his part) and unfair for me to have to because he has turned into a psycho maniac.

He is getting therapy so don’t think my parents are neglecting to see a deeper side of this, but he’s been going for almost a year now and obviously things aren’t getting any better. My mom is considering quitting her job to take care of him and that would make us have to move out of our house into a 2 bedroom apartment… ultimately kicking me out before I’m financially ready… So we are really at the end of the line here and NEED OTHER OPTIONS.

Please help? Ummm does anyone know how I can get a hold of that dude from Maury that kicks those kids into shape?!?! Anything like that. Or a way I can get him put in jail to learn a lesson…? ANYTHING people!

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Hi. I’m eighteen years old and still live with my parents. I go out at least once a week and take home applications to try to get a job. I’ve been trying for almost two years now, and I’ve had no luck. I’ve been told many times how bad the economy is, so it’ll be hard for me to get one, but anyway.

I still live with my parents, and every single day my mother gets drunk. Sometimes she’ll start drinking before it’s even noon. She drinks a lot, and no matter how many drinks she’s had she always claims she isn’t drunk. Whenever my dad and I confront her about this, she screams and yells and tells us she hates us etc.

This has been going on for years. Whenever she starts drinking, she gets mean and vicious. There are times when I won’t even be in the same room as her and she’ll start yelling at me, telling me I’m lazy and fat and that I’m a loser (and to be fair, yeah, I don’t have a job, but I have a 3.4 GPA in college and I’m majoring in nursing, I can’t say I’m a loser. She didn’t even go to college.) and how much she hates me. Then she and my dad will get into a fight, and once he leaves (either to go to work or because he’s had enough of her) she screams at me saying I always ‘stick up for him’ even when I’m not involved in the conversation. She then tells me how I treat her like sh*t because I’m not there to stick up for her in a fight and that I’m useless etc.

When she’s drunk she’ll do mean and rude things and she doesn’t care when I confront her about it. She’ll tell me it’s my fault for her alcoholism and when I ask her why, she can’t give me an answer. She usually replies with “I don’t want to talk to you anymore” or “I can’t stand you” etc. and then won’t let me get a word in.

I can’t explain all the things she does when she’s drunk but she’s insufferable. She’s mean and cruel to me and my dad, and she’ll yell and scare my dogs to badly that they hide under tables and stuff. I don’t understand what made her this way, but I can’t take it anymore.

The problem is, I don’t have the money (no job) to move out or get a dorm, and I don’t know if what she’s doing constitutes as illegal and/or abusive because she’s not physically hitting me or anything.

But I really need help, and I need out of this. I’ve tried taking her to family counseling before, which ended badly. We (my dad, her, and myself) were trying to work things out when my mom just got up and left. I feel helpless and I don’t know what to do. Please help.
Please don’t tell me to try to talk to her because my dad and I have been trying for years and she doesn’t care at all, she always blames us for it (and can never explain why).
My dad has tried to divorce her but she… for a lack of better terms, won’t let him. As well, almost all our family lives in a different state.
I need this question answered: Is what she’s doing illegal?

Can she get arrested for it?

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I am very confused with this case. My very own mother, who is a drug addict and has many mental health issues such as Bipolar Disorder, Manic Depression, Schizophrenia with Psychotic Episodes as well as does the man that she married 2 years ago that she met in a Psychiatric Hospital and only knew for 3 weeks before she married him, took custody of my girls from me. My ex husband stabbed me 4 times in the face and neck 2 days after Christmas and left me for dead. Luckily I survived. I took my girls and went to live with my mom because I had no where else to go and she told me she was going to help me. I was having a very hard time sleeping at night because of the nightmares and I was having panic attacks. My mom started giving me xanax to help me sleep and stay calm. Out of nowhere, my mom went to the DHS and made up a bunch of lies and told them I was all strung out on drugs which was not true. I asked for a drug test and they refused to give me one. When we went to court, the judge would not even let me speak the first word or defend myself. I didn’t have an attorney. I had no clue that she had made up so many horrible lies on me and all the while she was on drugs herself. My mom was issued temporary emergency custody of my girls. I was ordered to do a drug program. I had a full time job and I asked if I could do outpatient and I was told no. When I finally got the court order 6 months later, it said impatient was preferred not ordered. So I couldn’t complete an impatient program because I had a home, a car, and I still financially supported my girls. The company I worked for went out of business in May and I immediately began a new job. That job ended in September and I immediately began another job. When I went back to court in October, my mother gave custody to my ex husbands great grandmother and great aunt. They ordered me to have no contact with my girls and I dint understand why. In court, they jumped my case saying I should have done outpatient and I tried to explain to the judge that I called and asked my caseworker and she told me that it was unacceptable. Its a messed up court system. I wasn’t even allowed to speak in court. I tried to speak one time and I was told that if I spoke again I would be held in contempt of court. So all I could do was remain quiet while my so called mother sat right beside me and lied on me. The judge told me I had to quit my job and the only thing I was to do now was go to rehab. Well, I quit my job. I am on a waiting list to get into a rehab that I found that would take me without insurance. I have at least 4 more weeks left on the waiting list. I go to court in March and I know his family is going to fight me for full custody. I dint know what to do. I am by far not a bad mom. I have never so much as spanked my kids ever. I have taken care of them by myself while being in a very abusive relationship with their father. I ha vent spoken to or seen my girls in 2 months today and Im about to lose my mind. My girls love their Mommy and they cry to be with me. They carried them out of the courtroom crying that they want their Mommy and they love their Mommy and she is not a bad person. Its killing me to know that they want me so bad and I cant do anything about it. No one has even explained to my babies why Im not there. They have no clue what is going on. Its so unfair!!!!!! I don’t understand how this could happen when they had no evidence against me. All they had was my moms word and she is legally crazy!! I cant afford an attorney now because the judge ordered me to quit my job till I go to rehab. I need an attorney to represent me in court in March or I could possibly lose custody of my girls for good and for no reason at all. Can anyone help me with this situation?? All I want is my babies back so we can go back to being a family like we were before my husband tried to kill me. I love my babies with all of my heart and would never put them in harms way and they will tell you that themselves. What do I do before I do lose my mind??

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Why didn’t Jaime Perez stop & render help to a 5 yo child he hit was his IMMIGRATION status more important then the life of a 5 yo child ? Where is all this compassion supporters of illegals demand of America but why didn’t Jaime Perez provide such compassion ? MEMPHIS, TN – Tate County officials say a man was drunk when he hit a small boy with his SUV and drove away.

Jaime Perez, 35, is charged with DUI, leaving the scene of an accident and driving without a license. Investigators also believe Perez is an illegal immigrant. He is accused of hitting 5 year-old Frank Brooks on County Line Road in Tate County.

The boy’s parents talked only to Eyewitness News Everywhere about the accident they say happened just a few feet away from the family’s home.

“He was a happy, smiling kid. They would call him ‘Frankie Blue Eyes,’” said Frank’s mother, Frankie.

“My brother and I… we had our sons a day apart. It’s really hard. I loved him like my own,” said Frank’s uncle, Mike Brooks.

Family members say Frank was an angel, who was loving and full of energy. He was killed on Saturday, May 24, 2008, right in front of his brother and sister. The day before he was hit, the family says it rained and Frank wanted to play in the mud with his brother and sister. Family members say Frank walked to the side of the road to pick up his sister’s shoe, and that is when he was hit.

“He had blood coming out of his ears, his eyes were still open,” said Frankie. “He didn’t have time to blink or hurt. It was over that fast.”

Eyewitnesses say after Frank was hit, the driver went racing down the street in his Ford Excursion. Police say he lost control of the SUV and veered off the road.

“Someone had said there were beer bottles in his vehicle. He didn’t say a word to anyone,” said Frankie. Frankie said her son was not breathing and died in her arms on the side of the road.

While federal immigration officials try to decide if Perez will be deported, Frank’s family is left to deal with the grief.

“We’ll never have another birthday for him or holiday,” said uncle Mike. “It’s tough knowing he’s missing out on all these things. I loved him very much. I’ll always love him every day that goes by.”

According to the Tate County Sheriff, Perez is being held without bond. Officials say Perez had a Tennessee identification card, but say he had Mexican documents with him as well, plus some questionable social security cards.
http://www.myeyewitnessnews.com/mos… Jaime Perez, had many questionable SS cards are these crimes or has the law been changed so people like Jaime Perez, may use as many fake or stolen documents as it takes to make money ? Why wouldn’t Perez stop and help this young child ? Wanting a better life is one thing, but taking a life and without stopping to offer help cannot be excused nor can they say well at least he did pay taxes. Isn’t an illegal taking just one America life,one to many ?Now according to this story this guy may not even get deported and Perez might even be sent to SF put in one of those famous unlocked rehab group homes.Tell me with Mexicans having such strong family values,shouldn’t it of come natural for Perez to stop ?What about all those beer bottles in the Perez car ?
You guys always side track the story so Perez can walk free and blame somebody else..angel_lo… where do you see Mexican in this story ?

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I’m almost 9 months pregnant by my boyfriend of 14 months. I have 2 other children by two different men. My boyfriend lives with me and my two kids. He was financially responsible for all of us until he got laid off several months ago. We really didn’t get a chance to get to know each other. Since we’ve been together we have broken at least 6 or more times. He once told me that we get along better as friends. Anyway, I found out through his family that he was originally in love with another young lady before he met me . They said he was crazy about her and that she brought out the best in him. I found hidden pictures of them together in his computer files. I must admit she is very beautiful. She kinda looks like a cross between Kim Kardashian and Cassie. (she’s mixed with black and arab). Long story short she dumped him because he wouldn’t get help for his alcoholism, which really crushed him. So I guess I was the rebound girl. Anyway, 7 months into our relationship I noticed he started not coming home, start arguments with me, and fixing himself up more. Then I broke into his email and found out that he started seeing his ex again!! He emails her love letters and tells her how much he misses her. But he told her he is confused because he doesn’t know if he should leave me for her or be obligated to stay with the mother of his child. I’m so hurt.

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My brother in law is addicted to pills. It started out with Vicodin (not his) and now he has 3 separate doctors prescribing drugs to him without the knowledge of the others. He has wiped out their savings and got cash advances on secret credit cards for almost $15K in 6 months. He refuses to go to rehab because he thinks nothing is wrong with him. My sister asked him to leave a week ago and he is now staying with his parents. Before he left, he told my 5-year-old nephew that “your mom doesn’t want me to live here and I won’t get to see you anymore”. My nephew has been acting out and saying she is mean and if she loved him she would let his dad come home. My sister won’t let my nephew see his dad because he slurs, stumbles and is verbally abusive to anyone in the vicinity. She doesn’t want my nephew to know anything about what is going. I think she should explain that his dad is sick and can’t be around them right now. Any thoughts?

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Here’s the scoop. Met, got married. 4 months later he was doing steroids so bad and lying about everything while I was 3 months pregnant so I left him. He ended up back in prison for the 3rd time. I drove to see him, his parents paid my gas money. I divorced him and still went to see him. He got out, we remarried. Two weeks after marriage, he had profiles on the internet about being single, etc. I went to see mom in another town one weekend and came back early for a surprise visit. He was drinking and I had the cops follow me up to a motel. He OD’s on tylenol while drinking and lived through that ordeal. Got out of the hospital, and a year later he has been in hospital twice, rehab once, and making his own beer. This is a very pretigious family and they have lots of money. Courts usually don’t make inmates pay child support but he was ordered $300 a month while incarcerated. Now that he is out, not working, even has a big hidden trust fund, do I need to just divorce or ask him to help?
His parents are great. Its hard to describe them. Wealthy, socialites, picture perfect everything who only helps if I am trying to make it work with their son. Last time I was in court he was in prison. He says now I have no proof of him making money because trust and mutual funds are hidden, his mother tells me we will settle out of court (I brought out the bad side of their son in court last time)and that they are on my side. They only seem to want to help if I am trying to work it out with him. Its a shame because he is a nice looking man. I went to pick him up Friday and bring him here with me and his daughter and he wanted me to stop at the grocery store and he came out with champagne and a case of beer. I took him back home and told his parents and they said that’s what I should have done. His mother is very demanding and has never had to pay daycare, work, and provide for family. She doesn’t understand. I feel good about me taking him back home. I think I will go write a book.

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I work in a drug rehab center with woman who have their children on-site. If a mother gets discharged without completing her stay (which happens often) the kids get taken by cps. So far I have been the one to carry the kids out to the car and convince them it will be okay. After the children are taken we have no contact with them. Is it possible to keep in contact with these children? My employee handbook doesn’t say anything about it. But anyone who works for the state maybe know the policy of non family members keeping in contact with the children?

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My wife and I have been stellar parents and we were surprised by 2 CPS workers on friday, 04/17/09, they stated that they had a report that we were smoking pot with our 14 yr old daughter and giving her vicodin. They searched our house briefly, checked our food supply, running water…ect, and all was fine. I showed them my daughters precribed .5 vicodin bottle from her dentist. I had been assaulted by my 24 yr old stepson about a week earlier and pressed charges against him. WE DO NOT smoke pot or take any other illegal drugs and have never smoked pot with our daughter. I am sure this is angry revenge tactic of my stepson, he was the only one that knew our daughter was having dental work and had been prescibed vicodin.When the workers handed us forms to go to the Crime Lab to get drug tested I stated “If we are supposedly smoking pot with our daughter, why not test her also? My understanding once a file is made on us, even if found “unfounded” as it will, it will show we were investigated by CPS on our records for 10 years! I have raise 5 step children and 2 daughters of my own (7 total), I have always wanted to have children and when I married my wife,along with taking on 5 kids, many thought I was crazy! Yes she was raising them on welfare, but then I stepped up and gave them a life they had never had, new school clothes, Cheer leading, Go Kart racing and overall stability. Our oldest continued her education (with our asistance) and she now has her Bachelors and Masters Degree’s. I am so insualted and angry and its so obvious that this is just revenge for throwing out my lazy 24 yr old stepson that I have help so much and was physically assualted serverly in my face as he left, he has had 3 children by the time he was 21, all on welfare and now are in foster care due to CPS, and rightfully so! I believe I am protected by the HEPA law for my personal medicines that is my own private information. I have nothing to hide and they will not find any illegal drugs in either of us, its just the point that he (my stepson) can still keep “slapping me in the face”, yet they can’t find him to arrest him. This is his 2nd assault charge also. PLEASE give me any advice you have, I am pursueing legal advice today. 04/20/09…………………..Thank-You, RAS

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