Confidential Drug Rehabilitation

Or have you kept it a secret… :)

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My mom is an alcoholic and her bf is a drinker too. I put her through rehab and her bf sent her a plane ticket to arizona. She left without telling me. I had plans to help her get a job through a temp agency and to get state assistance for housing until she got back on her feet.(she used to work for a lawfirm and is very smart but is a typical alcoholic and doesnt use it) Now she and her bf are in arizona and are both jobless, she doesnt have a car or any money. I am trying to help her get assistance for job placement or even from a womens shelter to help with a job search. How long do you have to live in AZ before you are eligible for any state programs? She claims it is 6yrs but I dont know if she is lying. Can anyone recommend anything that I may be able to do to help her? I do not want to send money since they will blow it on drinks but I am sending her some interview clothes. Anything?
P.S. I looked up the AZ state benefits website and they do not list the residency requirements and are not open until monday but will try talking to them. If anyone has any insight or advice it is appreciated :)

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I think it’s my semi-secret addiction. lol

I set goals to myself (get to Level 3), but it’s funny ’cause it’s not like that’s going to get me a big prize or anything.

LOLZ. Yahooooooooooo…

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My family seems to be going nuts lately, not only is sister issues but yesterday my freshly divorced brother with kids, calls me up after not hearing from him for about 2 months. Starts conversation with don’t tell anyone! He told me he has been snorting heroin and went through three days of withdrawal trying to quit. I was devastated but happy he had stopped. I get a call last night that says I am so sorry but I had to do it again, I can’t handle it. His wife and me knew each other before they were married and she has no idea! (heck no one did) I just thought he was taking a time out and acting wild, going out every night and drinking and stuff due to divorce. I keep ending up with these moral questions of do not tell. I ask him to go to rehab, he says he can’t risk ex wife finding out. Cause he is afraid she won’t let him around the kids. Yet I am thinking does he need to be around the kids anyway with this problem. I really don’t know a lot about this addiction. Or for that matter anyone who has been through this. Can anyone shed light on this for me. If I keep the secret am I enabling him? If I tell I am afraid he has no one to go to for help. It makes sense now why he owes everybody money including me. His ex wife is tough and do you think I should just keep my mouth shut and let her find out for herself? Wow this is gut wrenching.

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Last year, my fiance’s mother died. Afterwards, he had anxiety so bad that he started having migraines that escalated to ice pick migraines. He went to his doctor and was gievn 120 tylenol 3′s a month. Anyone out there that has ever dealt with codiene would know that it’s highly addictive, and 120 is enough to start that addiction. It did. That was a year and a half ago, and it’s alot worse now. He probably spends anywhere from $800-$1500 buying pills off the street in a month. He came to me last night and told me that he wanted to quit, and he asked me to call his doctor and talk to him about it and see what could be done without him having to go to rehab because he’d lose his job. I did, and his doctor said he would do nothing. HE is the one that caused this, and he said he would do NOTHING. “Sorry, I can’t help you” is what he told me. He also told him that he could not be his patient any more. He then called my fiance’s work place and reffered him to a detox center.
He CANNOT do this because he would have to stay there for 2 weeks without any communication to the outside world.

My fiance’s addiction is to the point that if he were to go a certain amount of time without having codiene in his body, that he could go into cardiac arrest or have some other sort of major organ failure. This was told to us by another doctor. Now, he hasn’t had any for almost 20 hours. He’s vomiting, shaking, seizuring and having to run to the bathroom every 5 minutes.

He cannot go into rehab. He would get fired from his job. A about a year ago, we tried a step down method over a period of two months that worked for some time. I have really bad menstural cycles and I have to take percocets for the pain. He found them, and started again. I have since then stopped taking them.
I’m not looking for people to give me lecutres or judge me here. I’m also not looking to hear that going to detox would be the only way, because I know it isn’t. I’m simply asking what you would do in our situation. Is there anything that we can do about this doctor? I’m really starting to freak out because it seems there’s no way to get out of this and I don’t want to lose the person I love most to a tiny white pill. Thanks.
Ok, I guess I forgot to add that it is oxycodone and hydrocodone that he’s into. Percocets and vicodin.

And what’s up with this nightmare thing?
To the third answer – yes he can be outright fired. He is the administrator of the largest call center in Ohio and they have a 0 drug tolerance. A co worker of his didn’t tell management that he was on vicodin for a tooth ache and they caught him taking it on the floor and fired him. He tried pursuing this with a lawyer and nothing could be done. Just figured I’d let you know.
I thought that I might get atleast one sensible answer if I did this, but I guess I was wrong. Please understand that he CANNNOT go into detox or into rehab because he WILL lose his job. I know that doesn’t sound very significant, but you’ve got to understand that I can only work at certain places because of MY medical issues. Those places don’t pay that much….certainly not enough to pay all of our bills. And if I didn’t care about him, would I have posted this?

Another thing, it is not just codeine that he is addicted to. It’s oxycodone and hydrocodone, too. I’m sorry, but with the amount of doctors and with the amount of research that I have done, I have significant proof that it IS highly addictive.

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Is she the meanest Mom? The World’s formost expert on family recovery in alcoholism speaks out! What does Toby Rice Drews author of the million copy seller books Getting Them Sober and World’s formost expert on family recovery have to say. The world is talking about the ‘meanest mom’ story—-

hi everyone, the news media has been reporting about “the meanest mom” —- A mother who found a hidden bottle of booze under the driver’s seat, after her son drove her car.
She took the car away.

IS she ‘mean’?

Here is the gist of one of the “Recovery Tips of the Month” (on the www.gettingthemsober.com on that very subject (written a couple of years ago— before the ‘meanest mom’ hit the headlines)– Her answer won’t fit here. But you can go to the site to find out.

Toby answers this and more at gettingthemsober.com

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What I mean is that, do you keep your ‘addiction’ to Yahoo! Answers a secret to your friends? (I don’t have an addiction to it…I just couldn’t think of another word to use).

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My boyfriend of 3 yrs. knows my deepest darkest secrets. I fell in love with him because he was my best friend .We shared everything. I had never been in love before, and I am 44. Here’s the question….due to circumstances beyond our control….long story …..my ex and child custody….etc…. We had to break up.
Now he threatens me …that he will tell my family that my Dad sexually molested me for ten years…no one knows this but my ex, my sister, and him. What do I do? He says if I don’t come back to him, he will write my Mom, who is 74, a letter by email and tell her the truth. I never told my mother because she had enough pain in her life due to my father’s alcoholism and all. Why would he do this? Do you think he will? Should I wait and see? Should I tell my Mom first? My Dad is 78 now and on a feeding tube. He had cancer and radiation and all the rest. I don’t know what my parents will do…it could cause them a heartattack or something. I don’t condone it.
By no means! I dealt with it as a child and buried it down deep. It started to bother me at 29 and I told my sister/husband. They never told anyone. So WHY would he threaten me with this? Desperate? I am afraid everyday that he will email my parents. Then my 3 kids will know. And I don’t want them to have bad memories of their grandfather right before he passes, if he does. Am I paranoid? Is he bluffing? What do I do? He is so angry right now that I had to choose my l2 yr. old daughter over him because of child custody stuff…but it is only temporary. I tried to explain we can get back together when all the court papers are signed. He can’t live with me now. Help
I love him. I really do. I think he is just insecure and afraid of losing me. He said if he had to hurt, so should other people. My mother has never met him. We live five hundred miles away from them. I live in another state with my daughter for now. We have been here 3 months. And he thinks that is too long to be apart.
my mother is a retired school teacher so she does know alot about the computer. She still has her right mind. She is in good shape except for rhuematoid arithritis. My Dad has his mind also and gets around pretty good..he drives.

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My sister-in-law was in a custody battle with her ex-husband and DCS popped both of them with drug tests. She failed hers and he ran. needless to say neither of them got the kids (thank god) but my question is: What, if anything can DCS do to her for failing the drug test? are they legally able to turn her in since she is on house arrest? She’s on house arrest for a drug felony and any failed tests would violate her probation with house arrest. does DCS have to tell her probation officer, or is the drug test confidential since her probation officer didnt personally administer it?

trust me, i’d like to see her locked up or in rehab, shes got a huge problem. i just dont know what all DCS is allowed to do.

this is in tennessee – she failed the drug test for DCS on the 18th of this month. she hasnt seen her p.o. because of presidents day and is scheduled to see her on the 25th. what, if anything, will happen? is DCS obligated by law to tell her p.o. if they know she is house arrest?

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Am wondering if anyone knows about this, or where I can go to see if my employer is breaking the law with disclosing my “private” record and coversations with other management and employees? I thought that my rehab worker at work had to keep my file and our discussions private??

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