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You see, it’s her religion. She thinks enjoying drunkeness every once and awhile is alcoholism. Fine, great, so she never drinks, but she gets on my nerves. I don’t tell her I drink. I’m an adult and it’s none of her business, but the preaching and the drama like she’s some victim of an ‘addictive personality’ and a father with alcoholism is really annoying when it comes up. What should I do? I don’t feel I should have to live my adult life hiding the fact that I enjoy a drink now and then, but what?

The whole Jesus made wine and archeological evidence that the alcoholic beverages back then were not just grape juice with an insignificant amount of alcohol (like she claims) aka reason doesn’t work. What can I do so if I want a little rum in my coke I can? My father is the same way. He even supports her in her so called alcoholism!

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Everyone always says AA meetings etc. They mean nothing to me because I don’t believe in God. I was in rehab for 3 months and that is all they preach out of too, is the “big book” AA. It totally turns me off, I drank every weekend on my passes away. I just wonder does anyone know of any way to quit an addiction without hawing to refer to God or a Higher Power or anything? There has to be a way. Help
This is not a religious question, so please if all you have to say is about God or something please refrain. I have nothing against other peoples beliefs, to each their own, I just dont personally believe, and never will so please don’t try to convert me, or call me the devil, or say I’m going to hell. I am very comfortable with my beliefs, and am quite content with them. I am not ignorant on religion either, I have read the bible”s” more than once. I did my research and have chosen not to believe. Thank you.

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I’m scared…I know I need to go into rehab, but I’m so scared that I won’t be happy sober…has anyone, recovered alcoholic, sober, been really happy or will I always just want that next drink? I am so scared of never having that glass of wine again…it sounds silly, and I know, but I want to hear what other people, who are sober and recovered…was it worth it? Was like good without the drink?

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A potential alcohol problem, need advice?
I very rarely drink. There is a good reason for this. All of my uncles (8) including my dad were or are alcoholics. I have a constant urge to drink, always in the back of my mind. Lately, however, it’s been more at the surface. I cant get it out of my mind. I have told my husband this, but he thinks it’s funny. He doesnt understand why I dont like him drinking around me or having beers lying around. He just doesnt get it. I have a terrible urge to drink all the mike’s hard lemonade in my closet that I have hidden. I have never passed out or even gotten sick from drinking in the past. I could so easily become an alcoholic BUT.. do you think I already AM?? this urge is just so crazy and it’s driving me nuts.

I must add that my uncle just passed away from chronic alcoholism and since this, my urge has become unbearable. I have had thoughts about this before (I used to drink in excess in my early 20s but pregnancy stopped me) but after my uncle’s death, it’s gone tenfold.

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As a child, like many children, I dealt with an alcoholic, borderline abusive parent. I’ve come to terms with this as an adult, with relatively few emotional scars. I don’t drink at all, and I never have.
My problem is that I don’t like it when people close to me drink, and when my boyfriend drinks, I get absolutely crazy. I know he isn’t an alcoholic, and he almost never gets ‘drunk’ (and never has around me), but I see him as a protector, and it terrifies me when he drinks.
I know he loves me, and would stop if I asked him. However, I don’t want my mental problems to affect his life; I want to fix my mental problems. We’ve been together for a while now, and I trust him more than my own kin, so it’s not as though he has a short fuse or I’m afraid he’s hiding his alcoholism from me.

Has anyone dealt with a similar issue with people they love who was not an alcoholic drinking? How do you deal? Should I try counseling? I’m not sure about Al-anon, since I don’t believe drinking is a disease. Any suggestions?

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I hate it when people ask me how my mom is. As a kid she was VERY verbally abusive to me and she is also an alcoholic. She has been physically abusive to me on occasions as well. I am now an adult and I don’t have very much to do with her, but members of my (deceased) father’s family will often ask me how she is doing and one of my college friends just asked me for he address so she could mail my mother a Christmas card. Most of these people are people who know at the very least that my mother and I do not get along. She is good at hiding her alcoholism and when I would try to talk to people about the things she would say to me as a kid people would just say, “Oh, she is your mom, she loves you,” or, “you know when you grow up you will be best friends.” I think people have a lot of trouble believing that a mother could be this way, especially people who are close to their own mothers. And so when they ask me how she is doing I usually just say I don’t know I don’t see her that much, but people either look at me like they feel sorry for HER, or they look at me like I am stupid for not knowing how my own mother is. So my question is how SHOULD I handle things like this? I am the oldest in my family so this sort of question falls on me a lot, but now that I am an adult I just try not to think about her and what my Dad’s death turned her into. I just like to live my life and be happy so I wish people would just ask me about me and my husband when they talk to me. I don’t care how she is. Probably drunk and angry, that is how she is.

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I drink as much as I can, I am a young mother, my children our young, I have found a treatment facility that includes your children in your recovery, but since I have been AMAZING at hiding my alcoholism, all of my family and friends keep telling me that I could probably stop with “outpatients” or “you do not need to stop drinking entirely, you are fun to drink with”, the catch 22 is these are the same people who tell me, when I am openly drunk around them, that I “shouldnt drink so much” or
“you cant handle your alcohol” or you are a “mean drunk”, I know what they say is true, but the thing is, I CANNOT STOP DRINKING! even when I try, I cannot, I feel that. for my children, I should get help, and not to feel ashamed, since in the long run, they are going to be much happier, but I have everyone around me, in a sense, criticizing me for wanting to get this help! I am confused, I know I do not tell them all, but I still feel that they should see I am asking for help, and embrace it, ??

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Alcoholism runs in my family. I have a family member who is an alcoholic. She is not in denial and has been in and out of AA for years. She realizes she needs help and is going to enter a 2wk rehab soon. She is the type that hides this disease so well that we never know when she is on or off the wagon. No one would ever guess she has a problem. She is single, lives alone, and has no kids (and so far it has not affected her job) so there is no one to really hold her accountable for her drinking. Recently she told her immediate family/friends that she relapsed several months ago (this even includes her boss). She’s trying everything she knows to get well, and I’d like to help her anyway I can.

Besides holding her accountable daily and going to meetings with her, what are some things I can do to help that a person wouldn’t normally think of? If anyone has experience with this, I’d really appreciate it.

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hello, up until now my parents have been working fine together. my father is a very paranoid person and is an ex-alcoholic. He was in a rehab center for a month and managed to beat alcohol. Now, 15 years later he’s relapsing… badly. Everyday he gets off he manages to get himself completely plastered. He is also cheating on my mother. I know this because he would have secret ‘business’ meetings in which he left for a day or two to meet this woman. Also my grandmother (my fathers mother) just recently passed away and this led to even more excessive drinking. I was brought up and shown that alcohol is horrible. This is what this man has said to me, and as of right now he has totally contradicted himself. I just wanted to know what i could possibly do to make him quit this ‘disease’. I would like to get a reply as quickly as possible because i want my family to be back to the way it was.

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i’m 16 and my dad has been a drunk all my life. he starts at about 11am everyday and goes until about 9pm. the only time i ever see him sober is once in a while before school if he’s up. he’s a violent drunk though. he hasn’t hurt me or my mom yet. but he threatens me all the time telling me he’s going to kill me and beat me to death. i usually don’t say anything to him just sit in my room and ignore him with my mom. sometimes i do argue back though. he goes crazy with his words and then he starts putting holes through the walls and stuff like that. i don’t know what to do about him. should i call the cops when he’s doing all this? what will they do to him? or how can i get him taken away to rehab without his permission? anyone have any advice?

thank you so much

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