Confidential Drug Rehabilitation

My husband was admitted to a rehab facility 60 miles away from me on Friday after walking to his unioon representative and telling them he had a problem. I had no idea but he had been taking xanax that was prescribed by a doctor since august, was taking them before that by getting them off the streets and has been on prescription pain killers (i knew that) for about a year but he runs out about 2 weeks early and gets them off the street. He has had an emtional relationship with another woman for the last 2 months through text messaging… all kinds of stuff is coming out now that he is there. I am going to an al-anon meeting locally on thursday but am having a really hard time finding support for people with family members who are abusing narcotic prescription drugs. Does anyone know of any online resources?? I live in Indiana…

we have a 2.5 year old and she asks me every night to send her daddy in there to tell her good night. THis is so hard… I am lost and dont know what to do. Our christmas tree is up in the attic so someone is supposed to be coming over to get it down but its going to be hard putting it up without him. Thats his favorite part… He will be gone for a month

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My husband was admitted to a rehab facility 60 miles away from me on Friday after walking to his unioon representative and telling them he had a problem. I had no idea but he had been taking xanax that was prescribed by a doctor since august, was taking them before that by getting them off the streets and has been on prescription pain killers (i knew that) for about a year but he runs out about 2 weeks early and gets them off the street. He has had an emtional relationship with another woman for the last 2 months through text messaging… all kinds of stuff is coming out now that he is there. I am going to an al-anon meeting locally on thursday but am having a really hard time finding support for people with family members who are abusing narcotic prescription drugs. Does anyone know of any online resources?? I live in Indiana…

we have a 2.5 year old and she asks me every night to send her daddy in there to tell her good night. THis is so hard… I am lost and dont know what to do. Our christmas tree is up in the attic so someone is supposed to be coming over to get it down but its going to be hard putting it up without him. Thats his favorite part… He will be gone for a month

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I’ll try to make it short…My husband got terminated from a job 7 months ago due to failing a drug test (marijuana). This was a personal family matter that we wanted to deal with privately, it was not something my husband was proud of. He had to go through drug rehab to get his CDL license back, we paid the fine and he is now looking for a steady good paying full time job, he delivers pizza right now which surprisingly pays very well with tips. Anyways, instead of telling my dad he was fired I told him that he just decided to look for a better paying job. My dad snooped around (he knows alot of people) and found out the truth a few months ago. I just found out last night that knows what really happened.

Part of me is upset with him because he took it upon himself to snoop around on us. I am a grown woman with a family and would like our privacy respected, especially in a situation this disappointing and embarrassing. I understand I shouldn’t have lied to my dad, but there are certain things that should be kept between a husband and wife….not the rest of the family.

I want to just keep going on as if I don’t know that he knows. Mainly because my sister promised him she wouldn’t tell me and she did so he will know she broke her promise to him. I absolutely hate secrets but again, it’s a private family matter that we wanted to deal with ourselves.

What would you do in this situation?
He found out back in November so it’s been almost 4 months that he has known. He still randomly asks me why my husband quit, even though I’ve told him the same thing for the past 7 months. I guess to see if I’ll tell him the truth.

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My friend/boyfriend I’ve known for many years is one of the most amazing sweet people I’ve ever met and it kills me that the past few years hes been addicted to pain pills.
He has a friend that constantly supplies his addiction and makes it incredibly easy for him to keep getting them for nearly nothing. On top of that he’s bipolar and HAS to take medicine just to live “normally” but I already care for him too much to walk away.
Everyone else in his family has pretty much given up and they don’t know what to do, and I don’t know what to do. He’s not working and doesn’t have a car and yes sometimes I feel crazy for even considering being with him but something just keeps telling me maybe if I take the right steps to help him he will get help.
He and I have had so many long talks and we are so right for each other and he even has cried to me about his problems and the way he feels and how he feels lost. (The house he lives in is REALLY bad off, I won’t even get into that)
He knows he has a problem but some days he says everything’s fine and I’m so worried about him ;( Please anyone who has been addicted to pills or knows someone who recovered, how should I talk to him and maybe convince him to go to counceling or a meeting without freaking him out? I know he has to be the one to do it, but I want to make sure I say the right things and take the right steps so I help him see that he doesn’t have to live this way. On top of that I want to be able to at least reccomend affordable places he can go for counceling or meetings so any advice on the best places to go would mean a lot to me. Please help me ;(

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me & this chick were on & off for a year & a half it was a long distance relationship we’ve both had our share of being unfaithful but we got our relationship solid Once i graduated i was going to move out there & be with her the day after i graduated instead of moving i checked into rehab To her our relationship was good but i ended it i knew she deserved better a few days later I missed a few 2 of my exs calls the 1st she was really mad the 2nd she was still mad but she said she’d always love me me & her talked last night she said she was sorry & she missed me she’s with someone new but she said she did it coz everyone was saying it’d be good for her 5 seconds later she flipped moods & was being a bitch about everything finally i gave up & i told her i’d stay out of her life so she can be happy. also after we broke up i’d been having secret hook ups with a friend sometimes she says things my ex said & i can’t talk to for awhile. i miss her so bad, what do i do? we had a life planned.

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My best friend, her husband and their son are staying with me for now and her husband is an alcoholic. I didnt realize how bad he was until about two weeks after they moved in. I had put restrictions on his allowed alcohol but he constantly sneaks more into the house and hides it from me to keep me from fussing at him about it. I have tried talking to him and her about the fact that I dont like my children seeing him drink all the time or seeing him drunk almost every night but its not doing any good. Its to the point now that even my friends dont want to come over and visit because they dont like being around him. We have argued over the point of his drinking and he has even admited he has a problem but says he is not going to stop drinking for anyone. Now my husband says that I have to put my foot down and tell him he either stops or he has to leave. This close to christmas I hate to see anyone without a home, even someone with this kind of problem, but I cant deal with it anymore.
To clarify why i have to handle it, my husband works out of town and is rarely home, I allowed them into the home and its my responsibility to handle the situation. I just dont know how to tell my best friend her husband has to go. She has told him if he doesnt straighten up and he has to leave she wont be going with him because she will not have her son without a home because of his dads stupidity. He has lost and quit job after job and its because of his drinking they are in this situation. How do i talk to her without sounding crass or causing to much hurt? Do I go directly to him or just talk to her and let her deal with it? I am just so confused, I have never had to deal with this before and never thought I would have to.

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ok this might be long, so sorry about that. this girl i know is the biggest most manipulative conniving backstabbing *****. and she used to yell at me and make me do things like talk to her when i didnt want to and tell her EVERYWHERE im going and what im doing every 15 minutes literally. and when i blocked her and tried to ignore her and told her i dont want to be her friend shed threaten to ruin my life.

before she became a psychotic ***** we used to be good friends. and i had told her a secret about one of my other good friends. right?

well when i stopped talking to her and blocked her on everything i was scared because she always told me she would ruin my life. and this is what happened…

she messaged my friend whom shes never even met or talked to and told her that i told her the secret and everything. and my friend got really really mad at me. but we made amends.

but then i think she got someone to steal my phone while i was at work or school because all of my friends started getting phone calls and voicemails saying really mean and graphic things and the number on the caller ID was MY phone number. so they all hated me and rumors around my school spread like wildfire. (this girl doesnt go to my school). and i hated going because everyone thought i was this disgusting vulgar horrible mean person.

so i went to the police about her harassing me and they called her and told her to stop or else she would get into trouble.
and now its been like 2 months, and i thought she was going to stop. but now she is adding ALL of my friends on facebook.’

-and my best friends mom sent her to rehab because she caught her drinking and she is only 17. someone told me that she said when my friend gets out of rehab that she is going to call and leave an anonomous tip to my friends mom that she is drinking again and doing drugs now. to hopefully get her back into rehab to get back at me.

and she is trying to become friends with people at my school and become really good friends with my friends, but not mentioning my name so i dont think that is harassment. and im thinking she is going to try to spread rumors about me again and what if she steals my phone again and does the same thing? i have no proof she stole my phone because i didnt know it was gone.

PLEASE HELP ME WHAT DO I DO?!

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I recently posted the following question and got alot of opinions but no knowledge pertaining to the drug…PLEASE HELP ME!
My husband just recently admited to having a several year secret addiction to heroin-which would explain our maritial problems and separation. He claims he only smokes it and ” hates needles”- yet- three weeks ago- he claims he quit when he was sent to jail for a week on another charge. BUT- since he has been out- He first appeared sweaty and sick- like withdrawls but now- he is not sweating except alot in his sleep- he is hallucinating BIGTIME in his sleep and his speech seems slurred and quieter than usual. And his voice seems higher pitched and strained. Marijuana seems to make him WAY more messed up than ever before. Hie pupils are non-existant( could that be caused from anything else?- his eyes are rolling and scattered and his skin seems kinda ashy again. Last week, he pointed out three syringes and some tin foil in my yard- mind you- I live in Beverly HIlls and have never have never seen drugs in my yard- after he left, they never appeared again.Could him showing me this be his cry for help? Even though he claims they werent his? How do I know if he is still on it? Is there a difference in behavior between shooting it and smoking it? I feel so uneducated and he is refusing to be honest and claims he has been sober for a month now- but how long do the withdrawl effects last? And do your pupils shrink and eyes appear more blue during withdrawl or only while using? Do other drugs cause this small pupil effect too?, Also- if he was taking a pill substitute-would that still show up on a home drug test? so I thought maybe someone could shed some light on this for me? Thanks!

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I am 18 yrs old. I go back and forth between my mom and grandma’s house. I have been at my grandma’s house for 5 months now, with my mom only visiting on Friday’s and Saturday’s.
The Friday that just past, I found something I wasn’t mean to find. I was in my grandma’s closet looking for her binoculars so I could see the alligator across the street better. While looking I found a big bottle of Absolute Vodka in my grandma’s closet, along with seltzer. I asked my mom if my grandma was drinking again, and she ignored me. She informed me that my grandma was in rehab for drinking 2 other times. I told them I was going to say something, and they told me not to.
The Sunday that just past, I made up my mind and said something to her. I had to because I couldn’t stop crying. I asked her why, and she told me. I told her I needed her to stop because I love her more than anyone else in this world, and I don’t want her to drink herself to the hospital again. She has diabetes, and recently had to get her gal bladder removed. She has stopped testing her blood sugar level. When I told my mom why my grandma is drinking, my mom said it was just an excuse. I feel like my mom is using my grandma. I told them I wasn’t going to just sit back and watch my grandma destroy herself! I would rather have my grandma mad at me, than dead. She drank 2 big bottles of absolute vodka in one night!!!!!! Then went out for more.
After confronting my grandma she and I cried. We held each other almost all night. Her and I are also best friends. My grandma said she can’t go to rehab or AA meetings or her husband will divorce her. They have been married since they were 25 yrs old, and they are now 57.
I can’t stop crying. My grandma needs help. PLEASE! SOMEONE GIVE ME ADVICE! GIVING UP ON HER IS NOT AN OPTION FOR ME. I WILL GO TO THE END OF THIS WORLD AND BACK FOR HER.
Maybe a hotline where I can talk to someone and figure out what to do? How do I talk about it without someone in my family knowing? PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE HELP. I WILL DO ANYTHING. NO NEGATIVE COMMENTS PLEASE. MY GRANDMA HAS ALWAYS BEEN THERE FOR ME; MORE THAN MY OWN MOTHER. NOW IT’S MY TURN TO BE THERE FOR HER.

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Not too long ago, I quit drinking and started a recovery program for alcoholism. Earlier this week, I talked about this with my Mom for the first time. She immediately admitted that her and my dad are both alcoholics also, and have both known they were for most of their lives. This was a great conversation, however she later emailed me and told me that she does not want this information shared with anyone, including my fiance. So my question is: do I have a responsibility to keep this secret? It seems like very pertinent information about me as a person that both my parents are alcoholics, and it seems somehow unfair to me that I wouldn’t be able to explain that to people, especially when I have to explain that I am myself an alcoholic. On the other hand, no one else really has a “need to know” this information, and it was a private conversation between my Mom and I, so it seems like she does have a right to expect confidentiality. I’m really not sure what to do here, please help!

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