Confidential Drug Rehabilitation

My husband was admitted to a rehab facility 60 miles away from me on Friday after walking to his unioon representative and telling them he had a problem. I had no idea but he had been taking xanax that was prescribed by a doctor since august, was taking them before that by getting them off the streets and has been on prescription pain killers (i knew that) for about a year but he runs out about 2 weeks early and gets them off the street. He has had an emtional relationship with another woman for the last 2 months through text messaging… all kinds of stuff is coming out now that he is there. I am going to an al-anon meeting locally on thursday but am having a really hard time finding support for people with family members who are abusing narcotic prescription drugs. Does anyone know of any online resources?? I live in Indiana…

we have a 2.5 year old and she asks me every night to send her daddy in there to tell her good night. THis is so hard… I am lost and dont know what to do. Our christmas tree is up in the attic so someone is supposed to be coming over to get it down but its going to be hard putting it up without him. Thats his favorite part… He will be gone for a month.

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My friend is an alcoholic, he cannot go a day without some sort of drink. We’re both only 15, I’m on the A honor role and I know hes a smart kid too. He just doesn’t give himself the ambition to go up and beyond. He usually drinks vodka and beer, I have no idea if his parents know about this or care. I suspect he’s taking the alcohol from his parents stash. On a given day you wouldn’t know he’d had a drink, because hes normal and blends in. Today I asked him why he was so ticked off and got irritated so easily. He said it was because he hadn’t drank anything and was sober.
I now know he drinks in the morning. He gets normal grades and doesn’t miss school. I’m not going to tell the school councilors because once they know you have any kind of problem you go to a rehab center, every kid that’s been sent there comes back with worse problems. I’m not saying all councilors are like that but the ones at my school are NOT professionals and I would never trust them.

I will not tell his parents either because they already know and won’t do anything about it or they’ll beat the crap out of him. He is not a violent kid and if he’s feeling on edge he will warn you and others to refrain him. There are many kids that do drink, mabey thats what configures him to see little wrong with this act. I did tell him when he was sober that hes smart and drinkings not good for him. Eventually when he goes back to drinking all the time, it’s that much of an adiction.

This mainly bothered me because I know I’m one of the people that he trusts and I was thinking about everyone and what they’ed grow up to be. I saw him sitting in a junky house , whatching TV with a beer can in his hand and bottles littering the house. I don’t want him to end up like that.

What do I say to him?

How can I help him?

I know kids do worse stuff in my school, but this bothered me a lot. I know he can do better.

How do I get him there?

For my reasons I realy can’t tell anyone about this because I am being kept a close eye on by the courthouse because of my parents divorce. If I admit to having contact with a friend that drinks I will be assumed of having bad qualitys.It’s complicated.

I will tell my mom who I can trust, she also has a Masters degree in psychology.

Thanks for reading.

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Hi. I’m eighteen years old and still live with my parents. I go out at least once a week and take home applications to try to get a job. I’ve been trying for almost two years now, and I’ve had no luck. I’ve been told many times how bad the economy is, so it’ll be hard for me to get one, but anyway.

I still live with my parents, and every single day my mother gets drunk. Sometimes she’ll start drinking before it’s even noon. She drinks a lot, and no matter how many drinks she’s had she always claims she isn’t drunk. Whenever my dad and I confront her about this, she screams and yells and tells us she hates us etc.

This has been going on for years. Whenever she starts drinking, she gets mean and vicious. There are times when I won’t even be in the same room as her and she’ll start yelling at me, telling me I’m lazy and fat and that I’m a loser (and to be fair, yeah, I don’t have a job, but I have a 3.4 GPA in college and I’m majoring in nursing, I can’t say I’m a loser. She didn’t even go to college.) and how much she hates me. Then she and my dad will get into a fight, and once he leaves (either to go to work or because he’s had enough of her) she screams at me saying I always ‘stick up for him’ even when I’m not involved in the conversation. She then tells me how I treat her like sh*t because I’m not there to stick up for her in a fight and that I’m useless etc.

When she’s drunk she’ll do mean and rude things and she doesn’t care when I confront her about it. She’ll tell me it’s my fault for her alcoholism and when I ask her why, she can’t give me an answer. She usually replies with “I don’t want to talk to you anymore” or “I can’t stand you” etc. and then won’t let me get a word in.

I can’t explain all the things she does when she’s drunk but she’s insufferable. She’s mean and cruel to me and my dad, and she’ll yell and scare my dogs to badly that they hide under tables and stuff. I don’t understand what made her this way, but I can’t take it anymore.

The problem is, I don’t have the money (no job) to move out or get a dorm, and I don’t know if what she’s doing constitutes as illegal and/or abusive because she’s not physically hitting me or anything.

But I really need help, and I need out of this. I’ve tried taking her to family counseling before, which ended badly. We (my dad, her, and myself) were trying to work things out when my mom just got up and left. I feel helpless and I don’t know what to do. Please help.
Please don’t tell me to try to talk to her because my dad and I have been trying for years and she doesn’t care at all, she always blames us for it (and can never explain why).
My dad has tried to divorce her but she… for a lack of better terms, won’t let him. As well, almost all our family lives in a different state.
I need this question answered: Is what she’s doing illegal?

Can she get arrested for it?

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My dad has an alcohol problem and it’s beginning to affect me. I’m currently in my final year at law school and decided to stay at home to help my mother. My dad, who has been battling depression and alcoholism for a long time, has started to relapse into the habit.
Before I use to know how to deal with it, go out with friends, play sport, study or play music in my room with the doors shut. Now, as an adult (26), I just don’t know what to do or say to my mother to comfort her.
Nearly everyday, he drinks in secret, even though we’ve repeatedly told him, that he shouldn’t have anything to hide, if he wants to have a drink just say so, make US AWARE of it. But everyday, he walks into the house smelling of alcohol and talking BS on the dinner table in front of guests.

It’s a huge embarrassment to me and I try my best to protect him in front of people. Sometimes, I go on a big defensive, which ends up making me look bad in front of others. Some may know he has a problem, and I know they talk behind his back.

I feel isolated every time I walk to the shops to buy things as I feel that people are beginning to associate me with him. But I don’t drink, I go to a first tier university and I study hard for my grades.

Every time he does this, I feel like I take a step back from him. Like I don’t really know him, I feel pity for him, saddened and sometimes (dare I say) hatred for what he puts my mum through.

What can I do?
Any advice will help.

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I’m really confused. Are they different or are they similar? What are the differences between alcoholism and alcohol abuse (if there are any)? Which one is worse?

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