April 2, 2010 admin 20 comments

During a very confusing and tumultuous year in my life, I went down several different paths that were destructive in my life. I explored lesbianism and after i was used by my girlfriend, I got really depressed so I started watching pornography. Before long I had a sex addiction that was out of control. Now, God has turned my life around and He has forgiven me and changed me from the inside out…but I feel like I cannot tell my parents about it because it would break their hearts, plus they are both homophobes and they are super judgemental of homosexuals and those that struggle with sexual temptations….so is it okay for me to not (and possibly never) tell them?

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Written by Coast to Coast AM #1 Fan about 2 years ago.

Yes.
Written by dhfman999 about 2 years ago.

Don’t tell-it will hurt them and doesn’t help you one bit.
Written by iknowitall about 2 years ago.

no . confide in them. if u consider them u r friends they can give best advice cause they know u best and will always have u r best in their mind
Written by jenepher402 about 2 years ago.

I think that as long as you have your life on track. You can probably just put this behind you. I wouldn’t trouble your parents with something you’ve already dealt with. Bless you for being so considerate.

I also understand the basic confusion of growing up. I hope you can continue to live the life that you are comfortable with.

God Bless!
Written by casperpdavies about 2 years ago.

If God has forgiven you then its forgiven and forgotten by him and thats the most important thing. Right now, you don’t feel its right to tell them and thats cool but hey, you never know what the future hold. Maybe God will never ask you to tell your parents but maybe he will use your experiences to help someone else who is going through a rough time.
Written by fairykisses2195 about 2 years ago.

I wouldn’t tell my parents in your situation b/c now you are fine and are on the right path. Your parents might start to look at you differently. And I wouldn’t want to ruin a good relationship. Or on the flip-side they could totally embrace you, but from the sound of it all probally not. Plus that was the past you and you are born anew.
Written by FlyingKnight about 2 years ago.

Keep it to yourself. You are an adult. You live your life.
You just have to honor your parents as God said.
Written by piggrumpy@verizon.net about 2 years ago.

Well you don’t say how old you are. So I will take it that means your still under 18. And for the time being, since you have turned your life around accepting the Lord, I would say that right now as of this present time NO do NOT tell your parents. But in a few years if you have a good relation with your parents then yes, I think you should tell them. You picked the time in your life, as in 2 years, 4 years, or ten years down the road. BUT I think you should tell them. I think that as parents if you love and respect them they should know. Good Luck and God bless you.
Written by Mash about 2 years ago.

Its perfectly okay if you hide this from them. You realise what you are doing and you are in control and thats a great sign. It’s not that sharing everything is a virtue, its a sign of weak ness considering that if you knw your confessions they will feel hurt.
Written by daisy about 2 years ago.

sometimes confession is good for the soul but not for relationships. why are you so compelled to tell the bad parts be joyous and share the good!
Written by vicsikix about 2 years ago.

Some things are just best left alone. If God has forgiven you, then let it be between you and God, and forgive yourself. God forgives and forgets it. Really. If it ever comes point in time where you are to tell everyone or anyone about it, pray about it, then do what God leads you to do about it. Christians forgive.
Written by jenntherealdeal about 2 years ago.

The only person you have to ask for forgiveness is God. As long as you are on the straight and narrow now then there is no reason to tell your parents. If you slip and get yourself into trouble again then you may want to consider telling your parents.
Written by sheeple_rancher about 2 years ago.

As a parent, I’ll just say there are some things a parent shouldn’t know about their kids.

What matters is what happens later on – how you turn out. It is up to you to decide what the need to know.
Written by mark_intotdeauna about 2 years ago.

no worries, it’s not natural if a child tells everything to his/her parents.

to reverse it: i’m not interested in my parents sexlife either. to be very honest, i would rather kill myself before listening to my mom telling me about her sexlife.

only thing that saddens me is that you probably also didn’t have much support from ur parents during the depression, if u had to hide all these things.

i always believe i have to fight homophobia, but i always make an exeptance for the parents. it’s only you that can see if they can handle it or not, and what it’s worth to you.
Written by Corn & Taters & Buckets of Gravy about 2 years ago.

Unless you want to upset them (and possibly leave them wondering what other “secrets” you might have), I see no reason why you should share your sexual history with them.
Written by charleyit about 2 years ago.

Of course it is okay, but consider this. Perhaps one silver lining in the cloud of your experience would be for them to have to reconsider their harsh stance on homosexuality once the issue hits home. You could be depriving them of a God sent opportunity to grow. Notice I am using words like perhaps and could be. This is because I do not know and I don’t want to come across to you like I know. I am suggesting. Part of the ninth step, if you are going the 12 step route which I am, is to make amends. It does say except when your amends would injure the person you are making the amends to or others. I would think you would be the best judge of that and not I.

Anyway my hats off to you for having to courage to seek, and the wherewithal to accept, God’s help. You are a hero of faith. May God continue to bless you and use you to free others from that horrible malady or sexual addiction.
Written by Sailormoon about 2 years ago.

It’s awesome that you have changed and repented. although it’s the past, if you think you don’t want your parents to find out from other sources and you don’t feel you wanna have dark secrets… maybe you can tell them… but I don’t know. It’s a delicate situation. I think God can help you with that, rather than us…Make up your mind and ask God if it’s right. Then He will confirm your decision or recommend an alternative. Press forward with steadfastness feasting upon the words of Christ and abounding in good works.If Satan reminds you of your past, remind of your future with perfect brightness of hope.

“But, behold, I say unto you, that you must study it out in your mind; then you must ask me if it be right, and if it is right I will cause that your bosom shall burn within you; therefore, you shall feel that it is right.

9 But if it be not right you shall have no such feelings, but you shall have a stupor of thought that shall cause you to forget the thing which is wrong…”
Written by Pinky about 2 years ago.

Honesty is of course the best policy, but timing is everything. Don’t mention anything until you’re grown and on your own. Get on your own two feet, get a career – accomplish something. Show your parents you are a competent, intelligent, independent and good person before you tell them. Be sure to remind them that by making the mistakes you did, you would have never learned from them, and thus may have never become the successful woman you are. It may take a while, or you may be there now, but your parents deserve to know. It may not be easy, but no one ever said life would be.

They’re your parents, and if they really love you, they should be able to find it in their hearts to forgive you and love the person you are NOW. You are not the same person you were when you made those mistakes, and they should be able to see that.
Written by schpicey about 2 years ago.

Your thoughts are your own, and ultimately you answer to God…not to your parents.
Written by musiclady1012 about 2 years ago.

Yes it is ok since you are not endangering yourself anymore and have turned your life over to God.

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