Hello,
Well my wife and I have been having some problems getting along. She has kind of detached herself from me. We barely get through the day without a fight. She works as a bartender at night so she gets a couple days off a week and it is usually not consecutive or on the same days off that I have. Basicaly we don’t spend much time together. Out daughter is almost 4 years old and she adds to some of the stress on our relationship. We are usually with her at different times during the day. Recently in the last few months my wife has lost a lot of motivation to do any normal activities. She has continued to loose wieght without any exercise and has been making less money. She has started lieing to me after the fact that I told her I already knew the truth. She didn’t come home from work one night and said she was sleeping at a friends when she came home at 6 am after I had been out looking for her. It will never happen again. It did on Sunday. She was not where she said she would be. She didn’t come home with the food she promissed for our daughter and I. She came home all wasted and wanted to leave me. We talked and aggreed on counciling. On Tuesday she was to get off early and come home. I called her and she was on her way and then never showed I went to her work at 4 am and whe was not home. I called her again and she said she was on her way. She showed up an hour later and was wasted. She finally told me she has a problem with alcohol, Lortab, and Lieing. I am completly behind her if she needs help. I do not want to loose her but I can’t take the lies and sneaking around. What issue should be adressed first drugs or marraige. I am so sad now and I feel like I don’t have anyone to talk to about it besides her. I just feel like after all the times I had asked her about the personallity change and if she was on drugs or cheating she always says no. Can I ever trust her again. Please help I am a wreck like this.
I know how to use a phone book. I want to know what to deal with first the addiction or the relationship. If she can’t stay clean I cant’t stay with her.

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