I’m 16, my mom is an alcoholic, my family and I have been through so much with her problem, when she finally got help I thought it was all better. But we found out about 3 weeks ago that she has been having an affair with her ex boyfriend from college. My mom and I always had the best relationship out of everyone in the family and when I found out she was lieing to me I was completely torn. My dad said he can’t divorce her even if he wanted to because we’d lose the house and our family would fall completely apart. After a huge fight I thought my mom would stop talking to this guy she’d been seeing behind our backs,, but today my brother and I found emails she’s been sending him and they were talking about meeting again this weekend. We told my dad and he’s going to stop her from going by taking her car keys before she is about to leave. We have been hiding from my mom that we know about this weekend with her “secret lover” so she doesn’t know what is about to come. You have to understand my mom doesn’t handle anything well, she has a complete mental breakdown and starts drinking and won’t stop for 1-2 weeks until she comes back down to earth. But this time is going to be worse then anything other time. This week coming up is going to be complete hell and my mom refuses to get help such as rehab or even a therapist or marriage counsler. I’m scared her or my dad might get hurt during this. There is going to be constant fighting, the entire house will be a mess, everyone will be so tense, my mom will be drunk, sleeping, or fighting with my dad every second of the day or might even leave for good. This has all happened before after fights she has with my dad, but this time will be ten times worse and i don’t think i can handle it.

What can i do to keep a healthy state of mind while this is happening?
How can i convince my mom to get help?

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