Can you build trust again in a BF/GF relationship once the trust has been broken due to a pill addiction?

March 22, 2010 admin 15 comments

I recently found out that my BF of 5 years has been taking prescription drugs that were NEVER prescribed to him. Because he kept the pill addiction a secret, I really don’t trust him anymore. I sensed that there was something going on w/pills, confronted him about it, and was always told that nothing was going on. The only thing I didn’t do was make him take a drug test. He is clean now for 10 months. Is it possible to build trust again in this type of situation?

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Written by lexilou. about 2 years ago.

Yes for sure.
You guys have to be ready for it.
Written by L a L a L a . about 2 years ago.

Give him a second chance,
If he’s given it up then maybe he deserves it
Written by raju about 2 years ago.

Talk to him. Do tell him that u trust him and similarly he can trust u. In case he feels the urge to take drugs in future he can confide in u.
This will allow you to talk him out of drugs
Written by baby7k about 2 years ago.

Yes, its possible but its going to be a battle and a half. You just have to be prepared.
Written by katy about 2 years ago.

HONEY,,THERE R SO MANY,,GOOD GUYS OUT THERE,,THEY YOU DONT HAVE TO PUT UP,,,WITH NO KIND OF DRUG ADDITION,,,OR THE LIEING,,,AND THEN,,WILL COME THE STEALING….DOSE HE NO HE CAN GO TO JAIL,,IF HE IS CAUGHT WITH???,,,HONEY,,IF I WERE U I WOULD B OUT THERE LOOKING FOR A GUY,,,,WHO RESPECTS HIMSELF,,,AND YOU,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,PEACE♥
Written by leighkpea about 2 years ago.

It would not be possible for me, I guess it depends on how much you care about him. I had a boyfriend who did coke behind my back for years. I was crazy about him, and would have walked on my hands over broken glass for him. But that destroyed everything. I still loved him very much but could not trust him. And I reached a point where I had to leave because it was never going to be the way it was again.
Written by shan841 about 2 years ago.

Yes, as long as he stays clean. People who are addicts will do anything to get their drug of choice, even if that means doing things that they wouldn’t normally do, like lie to you. He may never lie to you again, but if he does relapse, he’s prob going to do the same thing and keep it from you. You should decide now what you are willing to do for him and how much you are willing to take from him.
Written by *AZia FaCe* :)- about 2 years ago.

YEAH BUT THIS PERSON NEEDS TO BE GETTING HELP AND WANT THE HELP AT THE SAME TIME. IT’S POSSIBLE!!! BUT REMEMBER POSSIBLE !
Written by enna about 2 years ago.

he is clean for 10 months. u said it , if u love him y not give one more chance,just do not remind him of the past.
Written by BabyRijo about 2 years ago.

Yes u can. there’s nothing bad about your problem.. i mean he lied to you and he knows he failed in some way but probably he’s trying to fix everything… now if yo had a problem like, the person you trust even if you were dead, would tell people things you’ve told him/her not to never ever sai to no one … that’d be fucked up and you know what i mean….. you will lose your trust in that person like if you have lost your own heart from your own body..
Written by matt.gloss about 2 years ago.

Addiction makes people behave totally out of character so if he is facing his addiction and you are helping him with that then yes you can build trust again.
If he accepts that he IS a drug addict and doesn’t believe he WAS one then he will know he can’t go there again without sliding back down the slippery slope of dependence.
If you have never had a dependence due to addiction you could never understand the depths he has been to before he faced his problem. You were there for him and you still are so I think he will now trust you more than anyone else. So trust him. Show him you love him and because you have shared the pain you both went through you will have a stronger relationship than many.
It was his dependence that made him deceive you and if he is no longer dependent, and he is normally a truthful person then yes it is possible to build trust again.
Written by leashalu about 2 years ago.

my friend is in the same exact situation but she knew about most of the time but didnt know how bad it was until it got reall real bad, we always talk about her situation together. Your trust will be verry very hard to gain back with him. you really dont know if he is even clean an if he can keep something like doing pills from you he can keep alot more. You would think that your bf/gf wouldnt keep something like this from you but the truth is they know what their doing isnt good and they know you love them enough to care about them doing pills. pill heads are hard to handle cuz their up and down and their emorions are all fuckd up. talk to ur bf/gf and be open listen to them but dont always believe them and fall into the mind of a pill head.

good luck and i hope i helped you = )
Written by hiba about 2 years ago.

Personally I couldn’t, but my niece was doing the same thing and her life involved 2 small children age 3 and 18 months and her husband and marriage.Her other addictions were cocaine and meth, She abused all her famling and the ones closest to her in marraige. but I’d say if he has been clean for 10 months, that does show he is trying and values the relationship between you and him.. Besides over coming the addiction and the trust issue it’s imporatant to have lots of patience. Many blessing to you both.
Written by jamiet757 about 2 years ago.

Since your question deals with addiction, you should check out this site, it has lots of helpful info that might help with your question:

http://www.recoveryforums.org

This site has a lot of great resources for people dealing with addiction or recovery, and those who know people who are dealing with it. It is worth a look in my opinion.
Written by Crix M about 2 years ago.

You can trust him again if he will assure you that he will never keep secret just like that to you. Everyone deserves a second chance, convince him to see a professional help about his pill addiction.

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