Comments on: Boyfriend is threatening suicide if we breakup?

By: JesusWasAShaman

JesusWasAShaman — Tue, 13 Apr 2010 01:42:04 +0000

I guess what people fail to see is that you’re not breaking up with this guy because you don’t like him, but because of personal reasons. I believe that you should try to tell him to level with you and since he has been someone who as attempted suicide in the past, then the risks are higher. I believe you should try him to get him into therapy as a whole “If you love, you;ll do it” kinda thing. No suicide threat should be taken as a joke and although it isn’t fair of the situation you are in, since you still care about him, it will hurt and haunt you more if he actually did do such an act. I think you should try to make him understand, get him help, and try to make him be able to move on from your breakup. Sorry to hear this, and honestly, a person’s suicide that isn’t your fault but could be prevented by you, can still make you feel terrible, maybe even for ever.

By: Brayden

Brayden — Tue, 13 Apr 2010 01:15:53 +0000

Pretty…

Insane…

Get…

Help…

By: bunny

bunny — Tue, 13 Apr 2010 00:31:22 +0000

seriously its not his life u have your own life live it. he cant guilt u into doing sttuff, well he can but dont listen plug your ears. if things get really bad tell your parents that a guy you use to date is like doing this sht to you…um maybe go to a therapist. idk really what to do but dont stay with this crazyyyy person you deserve better who cares if he dies hes mental what can you do your not responsible for his life!! DUMP HIM OR YOULL REGRET IT***

By: medzthemedik

medzthemedik — Mon, 12 Apr 2010 23:44:04 +0000

i think you already know this, but if his immaturity leads him to suicide because he bases his life around one person or thing, it’s NOT your fault. it would be his choice. but you might tell the police or his parents that he needs rehab

By: onelove

onelove — Mon, 12 Apr 2010 23:16:28 +0000

do not do this because he love you so much if he do anything then you are the only one responsible person. if he really love you, he can do anything because you are his life if you go from him then he wl be like a dead body because i m suffering from this illness and now i cant do anything PLZ look at his life and don’t do anything because you are the only one to give him happiness.

By: guardrailjim

guardrailjim — Mon, 12 Apr 2010 23:01:34 +0000

If he is sick enough to commit suicide, he is sick enough to kill you and himself at the same time so you will both be together in the after life.
Tell your parents, tell the police, get a restraining order, never see him without others in your presence.

By: TONI

TONI — Mon, 12 Apr 2010 22:20:52 +0000

Please leave him alone. You already have your own set of problems and you do not need to take on his.

By: nicolie-olie♥

nicolie-olie♥ — Mon, 12 Apr 2010 21:57:39 +0000

He’s just saying that to get your attention and make you feel guilty to stay. any guy that is actually suicidal would have done it by now.
i really hope he doesn’t, but if he ever does, just remember that it wasn’t YOUR problem..
it is his problem that he didn’t deal with the right way and you have no control over the way he handles himself. so don’t ever blame it on yourself, because that’s exactly what he wants.

also, tell him… “if you love me enough to kill yourself, than you wouldn’t kill yourself because you’d be putting me through so much pain… and you could never, ever take that back. and no one who truly loves someone would put the person they love in that much pain, willingly.”
its kinda hard to say out loud, but maybe you’ll have a better way to word it.

in reality, i think he’s just trying to scare you into staying with him.

also, some things to think about….
if he truly loved you, than he wouldnt want to lying to your family just to see him. if he truly loved you then he’d understand, and wait for you to get your own place to make it easier on you.

you should bring that up to him too :)

good luck! i hope i helped. <3
its always good to get others people’s point of view, because when we’re emotional we don’t always think rationally.

By: jeni

jeni — Mon, 12 Apr 2010 21:08:38 +0000

get rid of him! focus on yourself. you can’t try and please him because in the process you’re harming yourself. so get rid of him, and keep him out of your life. this is not a healthy relationship. if he does end up killing himself, it was in no way your fault! he’s trying to control you by hanging this over your head. you can’t be with someone like this forever. he has his own problems that he needs to work out and you can’t fix them for him. get rid of him, and focus on making yourself healthy and happy. plus, this has already happened to him before (big red flag!) ..he’s not changing! if he won’t go into a treatment program, that’s his problem and not yours. get out of this relationship now before he does more harm to himself or you. he cannot be reasoned with. if you feel threatened, contact the police. you’re right, you can’t handle this anymore. you’re not his mother, or his doctor, and you can’t be the one to take care of him. he needs to grow up and get some therapy.

By: detroit_hottie

detroit_hottie — Mon, 12 Apr 2010 20:37:47 +0000

He needs help. he shouldn’t be making you feel this way. you need to leave him in till you can be with him and you don’t have to sneak around to see him and after he gets help. tell him to talk to someone like suicide hot-line or something