As a child, like many children, I dealt with an alcoholic, borderline abusive parent. I’ve come to terms with this as an adult, with relatively few emotional scars. I don’t drink at all, and I never have.
My problem is that I don’t like it when people close to me drink, and when my boyfriend drinks, I get absolutely crazy. I know he isn’t an alcoholic, and he almost never gets ‘drunk’ (and never has around me), but I see him as a protector, and it terrifies me when he drinks.
I know he loves me, and would stop if I asked him. However, I don’t want my mental problems to affect his life; I want to fix my mental problems. We’ve been together for a while now, and I trust him more than my own kin, so it’s not as though he has a short fuse or I’m afraid he’s hiding his alcoholism from me.

Has anyone dealt with a similar issue with people they love who was not an alcoholic drinking? How do you deal? Should I try counseling? I’m not sure about Al-anon, since I don’t believe drinking is a disease. Any suggestions?

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